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Hi. I have 4 months old two budgies, one male and one female.
The female is one week younger than the male. I brought the male at home first, after a week (by then he was little bit familiar with the new environment) I brought a female. They are now used to of everything in their new home.
Its almost 2 months now they are living together. Initially they seemed to have developed bond with each other, they used to feed each other, help each other in caring their bodies, preening each other etc.
But its been 2-3 weeks that I see the female is bullying the male, she doesnt let him eat anything, and doesnt let him stay in one place. When I feed them with hand, she doesnt let him come near my hand and chase away with beak. Now I see that the male most of the time looks fearful and doesnt want to come close to me freely, neither steps up on my hand. But the female always love to come close to me, step up on my hand and even want to come out of cage. I have taken her out several time.
Whatever I provide them to eat, I give in two separate bowl so that they can eat their own. But even the female is eating from her own bowl, she goes to where the male is eating and just doesnt let him eat, chase him away. I am worried that this type of relationship between them will destroy the welfare of male. I worry if he just feel depressed or isolated and also weak because of not getting chance to eat enough.
And sometimes I ask my wife and friends to feed them millet with hand and interestingly the female doesnt chase the male away, she let him eat and both eat together.
Now please suggest me how can I stop the female from bullying the male?? How can I make him feel more closer and more safer. I want them to love each other and also want the male come closer to me without hesitation. Please help.

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Welcome to the forums!

I completely understand your worries especially when it comes to your male's general welfare.
From your description, it really seems your female budgie is being very abusive towards your male and is not letting him carry on with his normal daily activities.
Budgies need to be in a loving and stress free environment in order for them to truly flourish and be happy.
By letting them share a cage together, the abuse will continue and in this case, it really is best to separate your budgies into two different cages.
You can keep both cages close by, so they can still see and communicate with each other.
During this time you can work by strengthening the bond you have with your female and individually work with your male too.
Keep your budgies' training sessions separate so that they are both more focused on the one-on-one interactions with you.

Depending on your female's behaviour, once she appears to be more calm, you can allow your budgies to have closely supervised out of cage time together. That will give you an idea on whether they are able to get along on a neutral territory or not.

Rearranging the whole cage and accessories can also be helpful in diminishing the more aggressive and territorial behaviour. Also do not give access to any nesting sites or hiding places on the cage as that can also lead to an increase of aggressive behaviour in certain females.
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Welcome to talk budgies. Can't add anything to the great advice and info Aluz has already given you. Don't lose hope the situation could change for the better. Would love to see pic's of your little friends...
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You've been given great advice and resources and I hope everything works out! Please keep us posted, and we'd love to see pictures of your little ones when you get a chance

If you ever have any questions, please do ask as we're happy to help. Hope to see you around!

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Thanks everyone for excellent suggestions and warmth. Today I separated my budgies with heavy heart. I took the female (her name is Mina) in to the new cage just on my finger. She easily entered the new home which is attached to the old one. But as soon as she realized that she is separated, she is getting desperate, moving all corner of the cage and looking the way out, especially to the side where there is old cage with her friend (his name is Mitto). Mina doesnt make any noise just looking the way out desperately, and mitto is calling her from another cage, speaking and chripping continiously. I am kind of sad looking this. Did I do right? What should I do now further to make them used to like this? Mitto is in his molting period, by the way. When in the good mood Mina used to preen his head with her beak which I think helped alot in his molting process. Please suggest me what can I do now to feel both of them better. I havent compromise to make a new cage as nice as the old one, have all required toys, food, sand water and treats. I am sad watching them separated
PS I wanted to upload the pictures of my little friends, but I really couldnt figure out how to do this. I tried uploading via Galleri but there was an error.
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I know it's hard to see them miss each other so terribly!

Mina is confused because she's never been separated--but she should settle down eventually. It may help to move her to a room where she can't see Mitto for a few days until she gets used to the idea. Any time you tame Mitto, make sure Mina isn't there distracting him and by working with them separately, you can increase the bond you have with your male.

After a some time, you can put them next to each other again, and even let them out to play together, I would think. Watch Mina carefully for signs of bullying.

If it seems they absolutely are miserable in different cages all the time, you could try moving Mina out for eating time and shutting her in her own cage for food so Mitto gets some peace and quiet to eat

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Thanks alot
I must try different things as you suggested, thanks again.

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Here is Mitto (his molting can be seen)

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Mina and Mitto are both precious! What cute little budgies.

It would be helpful to move one of the cages into a different room where the two cannot see or hear each other. Once they become accustomed to being in separate cages, they will calm down and not seem so "desperate".

After a couple of weeks, you can try putting the cages next to one another again. In about a month, if Mina has calmed down sufficiently, you can try giving the two closely supervised out-of-cage time together to see how they do at that time.
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