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Old 12-01-2016, 11:09 AM
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I have a situation I didn't anticipate I thought that by having 3 birds, possibly Buster would get upset not having a close friend - this is not the issue. Buster is really quite happy just being himself - Great!

My issue is with Reggie who has fallen head over heals, insanely in love with Oscar. I thought I had gotten them a nice big gentle MANLY English budgie friend, turns out this is Reggie's ideal type!!

Over the last few weeks Reggie has been feeding Oscar and clearly he's been very fond of the big chap always wanting to be near him. Over the last few days however, this has intensified and it came to a head last night leaving me a bit bewildered and confused about how to proceed.

Reggie feeds Oscar (constantly!) kicks, kisses and is generally just up in Oscars face all the time. On behalf of Oscar, I tried to shoo Reggie away last night only this made him mad haha. I wouldn't usually want to get involved, I know we cannot judge our birdies when its hormone related, but I wasn't enjoying seeing Oscar constantly pestered. Especially when it involved flying. Oscar isn't the best flier, so when agile Reggie shoots off after him it makes Oscar abort his mission and land anywhere with a crash, AND THEN Reggie is there again kissing him etc etc - this is just too much!

So anyway, my interfering obviously annoyed Reggie and then he turned into a savage! If I got Oscar on my hand and walked towards the cage Reggie would fly at us and try to land, if I gently discouraged this he would attack my hand and hang on. Then he turned into a maniac shouting and flying about and generally being in a rage. I got the spare cage but putting Oscar in it unaccompanied was hard. Eventually I had Oscar on his own in the spare care and Reggie sat on top looking in with his tail in the air gently vibrating his wings. I put Oscar in the spare room over night. If you've followed my posts previously you will know that Reggie and I have a very strong bond so its really out of character to be an arse to me.

This morning I wanted to reunite all 3 and we had all the same issues again - demon Reggie! I ended up separating them again with Oscar in the spare room and Reggie and Buster in their cage in the living room, their cage mostly covered. Reggie proceeded to shout at the top of his voice in a high pitch chirp calling for Oscar.

I don't give them a lot of protein currently, they don't get a huge amount of daylight these days. What can I do to shut down this crazy labido? I tried giving him his Penguin who he usually pounces on straight away, but even she wasn't of interest compared to Oscar!

Do I just wait for this to end and Reggie to give up and realize he's been friend zoned? He hasn't tried to mount him yet, or put his wings around him, but from what I've read hes doing all the classic wooing techniques.

I worry for their safety, their cage isnt small, but its not big enough to have these shenanigans going on whilst i'm at work. I would hate to find that Reggie had gotten into a fight with Buster, or Oscar finally maned up and shot him down.

Help!

(I have looked at stickies but couldn't see one relevant, please let me know if I missed one!)

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Old 12-01-2016, 11:37 AM
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I can relate to this. My guy Georgie is obsessed with another of my boys, Bebe. It got so bad that I had put Georgie in another room with another bird that he is not obsessed with. I thought that after a few months his obsession would die down but it did not. A couple of weeks ago I brought all the birds together again and sure enough Georgie went straight to Bebe like there had never been a separation, so I have once again separated them. Bebe has his own buddy and there were fights between Georgie and Bebe's buddy Louie so I had to separate. Even just allowing separate out of the cage time did not work, they just cannot be in the same room. I don't know if this is hormonal since it has been going on for many months or just a case of an aggressive bird. There are hormone injections that the vet can give but I really don't want to do that to him so as long as he is content in another room with another bird I am just going to leave it at that for now. Bebe, unfortunately has a tumor and I don't want him harassed by Georgie.
How old is Reggie, is he going through his teenage period, if so he will hopefully grow out of it soon.
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Old 12-01-2016, 11:49 AM
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I'm sorry Reggie is giving Oscar (and you) such a hard time.
I agree that for now it's best for Reggie to be separated from Oscar (different rooms) for at the very least a few weeks in order to hopefully give him the required time cool down and have his hormones more under control.

During this time you will have to divide yourself into the two rooms to cater to Reggie/Buster's and Oscar's needs (including daily attention/interaction and out of cage activities).

I hope everything goes well and later on you will be able to re-introduce Oscar to Reggie and Buster.
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Old 12-01-2016, 01:50 PM
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Becky,

It's important that you keep Oscar separated from Reggie in a different cage in a different room of your home.
Otherwise, the situation is going to be continually stressful for Oscar both physically and emotionally.

In a few weeks (or months), you can try giving the three budgies out of cage time together to see how it goes.

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This is not a funny situation at all.... and you have my sincere empathies.... but I thought I would say that your writing style (about something un-funny)... is very humorous. Your writing makes me made me chuckle.

Good luck with this situation. I would imagine it's stressful. Hopefully Reggie will cool off. Hopefully he will realize that he should remain true to Ms. Penguin.
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I'm wondering if Oscar and Buster might do well together. Reggie could then focus on his bond with you!
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Leah's suggestion is EXCELLENT!
I'd definitely give that a try.
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You have a lot of options suggested.

I just wanted to add that my boy Jay, when he first came into condition was very hormonal and keen to woo the girls and I would have to work around him and the others to make sure he didn't spend all his time pestering the girl budgies.

He got over it and I'm sure Reggie will settle when this bout of hormones is over.
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Hi everyone,

Thank you for your replies! I was really hoping you would all tell me to stop over thinking it and to just let it happen....lol, sadly you actually replied with the suggestion I didn't want to hear.

Realistically, I cannot have 2 cages in 2 rooms permanently, so I will have to see how this temporary separation helps, but I really fear that as soon as they meet again it will be the same. After speaking to many people it sounds like this is it and Reggie may not forget his love for Oscar.
This morning was a nightmare, as soon as l lifted the cover off Reggie and Busters cage, Reggie was shouting at the top of his voice, very obviously calling for his mate It breaks my heart. This really is very stressful!!

I have 3 boys who I love dearly, but with this current situation I have one being hounded, one who doesn't get any look in (I don't think he cares but its not great that he gets shoo'd off for getting too close) and one whose a maniac. Then there is me, someone who loves their birds and loves the interaction I have with them, but Buster isnt bonded to me, Oscar isnt allowed to be with me, and Reggie my baby boy who has abandoned me!! I like to enjoy my pets, and in turn I give them the best love and care I can, maybe this is selfish but they're a big commitment and I want to enjoy them.

Sigh. I will see how the next few noisy weeks play out, and then I will have to decide what to do. I do have 2 friends with fantastic aviaries (indoor and outdoor) who would happily re-home Oscar should that be needed. Its really not the solution I want but it's potentially the way to make everyone happy......

I will keep you updated!
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Our flock has had several very special friends through the years. When we were actively breeding we had the adult flights separated by sex and the new babies in their own flight with specially chosen wise and gentle cock birds to teach the youngsters the things the babies miss as they are often quickly sold to pet stores etc. An emotionally healthy budgie needs to learn to bond with other budgies before the ability to bond with humans matures to the best it can be.

Many humans have strong friendships that are not considered abnormal.
We have had several pairs that have remained bonded through their entire lives. We often bring couples that are too old to safely breed in to have little honey moons and it is truly beautiful to watch them reconnect.

In our handicapped cage we have 2 hens and 2 cocks. Recently one of the very old hens, Cinnamon passed on and now we are working with Our Teddy to help her regain her joy in the flock. She immediately lost weight and is really missing her special friend. So We have introduced one of our older hens to see if in time they may be able to form a bond with each other, This takes time and there are no strict rules to follow.

In the mean time We have Apollo and Sky, who are best friends, bust sky also has a bond with his special hen so we have to provide time for this. Sky's younger brother is also close to Apollo so we give sky a break and and we give Apollo extra attention. We move birds around between flights and cages which is part of healthy change that wild birds experience every day.

So what I am saying is to allow for special friends to have time and then take a break and move birds around. Renewing birdie friendships has been a very special experience to share with our flock. A flock is a family that can experience change and still support the members of the budgie and human members of the flock. Change can be refreshing as long as it is not based on fear. Work with what nature has provided. and enjoy life with our wonderful Birdies , Blessings, Jo Ann
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