Aggressive in the cage, confused outside of the cage?
Hi there! I am back after a long while! So to quickly summarize this, 2 years ago I got Coco and the pet store said shes a male, later on I found out he is actually a she, haha! a couple of months later I get two other budgies from the pet store and they were always in love and coco seemed jealous (2 females and a male, not a good situation) this past summer I re homed the 2 budgies to a person who is very experienced with birds, ever since then I have been working on re-taming Coco, however shes become more aggressive now since shes grown, I try spending time with her but shes just scared/aggressive toward me? I talk to her gently, and when I put my finger out she bites with all her force!! I've also used millet to try to train her but she usually doesn't eat it. It's very frustrating and painful, she used to do this as a young budgie however she didn't bite with all her force, when shes out of her cage (sometimes she gives in and perches on my finger) after i take her out of her cage she seems to be normal, she does bite time to time but she stays on my finger and goes on my shoulders and such. Now I have to also admit 3 days ago I clipped her wings thinking it would be easier to re-tame her as i got her wings clipped when she was a baby, I'm not a huge fan of wing clipping but I just wanted to do it this once so we can regain some of the trust we used to have, I promise I did not hurt her I researched very well for days on end, I've read some threads where some people's budgies have calmed down after getting their wings clipped HOWEVER, this is not the case for me. Coco's actually become slightly more aggressive and bites me everytime my finger is in the cage, when shes out of the cage she seems to confused on whether or not to trust me. I honestly have NO idea on how to stop her very aggressive behavior, I've tried staying still and not speaking when she bites (since loud noises and jerking your hand can encourage/scare the budgie) but that did not work and i just end up with tiny bumps on my hands. I've also tried blowing on her every time she bites, no luck, it seems as though shes become so much more aggressive and doesn't trust me at all! help please!! https://streamable.com/nekz9
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It's unfortunate you decided to clip Coco's wings.
Doing so broke whatever trust she had built toward you.
Coco is aggressive toward you when she is in her cage because she considers it to be her safe space.
When you "invade" it you are entering her home and she is trying to let you know she is not happy with that.
You have to learn to respect her space.
I would not recommend forcibly removing her from her cage.
Open the door and allow her to come out when she is ready.
Set up a playground area for her outside her cage with a favorite toy and treat to make the idea of coming out more appealing.
When you need her to step up, instead of offering her your finger, offer her the back of your hand or a small wooden dowel perch.
Many budgies don't like the whole "finger" step-up process but have no problem stepping up onto your hand, arm or a wooden dowel.
Slow down on what you are doing and go at Coco's pace.
If you try to rush her you will only end up going backward instead of forward.
Remember to always talk to her calmly and reassuringly when you are working with her.
Sitting near her cage and talking, reading and singing will help her feel more comfortable around you.
You can play the blinking game with her as well. Look at her and blink your eyes slowly. Then repeat. See if she decides to blink back at you.
Many budgies love the game.