Stanley and zuko had there first meeting today outside of there cages , it didn't go very well at all. Stanley really wants to be zukos friend but Zuko looked mortified he didn't want anything to do with Stanley at all. I will try again tomorrow . Zuko has not been himself since Norman died I actually think he has lost a little bit weight. He seems to of taken Normans death badly, so I was really looking forward to giving him another friend to hopefully make him happy again,unfortunately it didn't quite go how I expected it to, Stanley was singing to him, trying to feed him and being very friendly ,but zuko seemed to shrivel to half his size and literally looked terrified.. Decca on the other hand has to be the friendliest bird on the planet. He wanted to say hello and they had a little sing song together. At least Stanley had a warm welcome of someone. I hope zuko is not going to be forever mourning Norman. These birds are so particular it fascinates me.
If you've moved the cage into the same room today (which I'm sure it must have been today as I know it wasn't very long ago that Stanley came to you), then it's best IMO, to leave them in their own cages for now.
I would leave Zuko in his cage and allow Stanley to meet the other birds for now. Trying to initiate another meeting with Zuko wasn't interested in the first won't do any good right now. Zuko is still grieving. It's not the time for him to meet a new bird friend and you need to ensure that you do what's really the best for him. I understand you want him to have a friend, but he's clearly not ready yet for any interaction.
Jimmy mourned for Sunny for a long time and even when he was sharing a cage with Skye and Star, he just sat by himself. He had friends but he wasn't interested in interacting with them at that time.
It is 4 weeks since we lost Norman and I got Stanley. Today is the first-day I brought Stanley into the birds room I was so excited but it didn't go to plan. Zuko has always been my main priority though and if he is not ready then he is not ready. . Decca is everyone's friend so Stanley can have fun with him while my hen suki sits and gives dirty looks. Today she has Been sitting watching quietly with a deadly glare.. Decca dealt with loss so much better , he lost his Mrs suddenly, she died in front of him while they were playing , strangely he mourned for only one day and then got attached to me. They are all so very different.
How long did it take for your Jimmy to start interacting more with the otgers? I have a feeling something died inside zuko when Norman went. I wish now I had let Zuko see Norman had gone, instead of taking norman out of the cage and him never returning. I hope he isn't waiting for him to come back. Patience and time I guess is the way forward..
Four weeks from losing Norman is not very long. Not to mourn.
A loss to the birds is different. Jimmy wasn't himself until months later and I just left him to interact with the others as he liked. I am lucky I am able to let mine socialise together as they all get along, so I just had to make sure Jimmy was put in with the bird he liked the most, which was Skye at the time, and left it at that.
When Jake died, he was in with Josie at the time and she wasn't bothered at all. Their personalities are very different and their bonds are individual and unique to them.
It seems I have a handful of a budgie on my hands, Stanley is a livewire, he swings off everything he possibly can , he is upside down one minute and doing acrobats and spins on his perch, when he fly's he swoops all over the place and lands purposely on any bird he can,he is faster and smarter than the others, unfortunately he is no good for my gentle Zuko at all,he even intimidates Suki and that is unheard of. I am keeping zuko well away from Stanley, however stanley seems to of struck a friendship with Decca. I am hoping he can be housed with Decca and Suki at some point and I will leave zuko on his own. I think Norman was a one off, as all my birds do not like zuko and I really don't know why as he has the gentlest soul. For now I have zuko in a cage by himself , Stanley in a cage by himself and Decca and Suki together.So my lovely idea of getting Zuko a replacement friend has backfired, for now anyway. Maybe in time things will be different but I'm doubting it.
When choosing a new bird, I always observe the interactions for a long time with other birds and pick one that I believe will fit in with the flock, or a particular bird, based on what I know they like.
It seems that Norman and newbie Stanley are very opposite in personality terms and that's why there's no connection with Zuko. If Zuko liked a quieter bird, when picking a new one, it's important to look for traits that match with what you know he liked in Norman. Of course, this is irrelevant now, but it's worth keeping in mind.
Just like us, budgies have personalities and are drawn to a particular type.
It's hard to guess those bonds and friendships that form or will form in time.
Stanley is young and playful and my Tommy was like that. He's still friendly and outgoing now and he's always the first to greet a new bird and as he's got older he and Jimmy have become good friends and often sit and preen one another.
Stanley might enjoy some solo out of cage time. Just remember that the more you allow Stanley and Decca to interact, you can risk the bond between Decca & Suki changing as well. Just something to be aware of.