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Question Does my parakeet hate me?

I got a new parakeet (it's my first ever bird) and I've had him for about a month now, and I just have a few questions. I think he's strange because no matter how much I googled I never heard anyone with this specific problem. When I first got him, he always wanted to come out of his cage the day after I got him, but now he refuses. I've been respecting his space and not forcing him to, but this behavior confuses me. Could it possibly be because he saw our cat? When I put my hand in the cage he happily sits on it, but if I try to offer him millet from my hand he COMPLETELY freaks out, but he'll eat it if I put it in his bowl. How can I teach him to take treats from my hand? I just want him to be a happy bird but I'm afraid I'm doing something wrong..

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Hi and welcome to the forum.

It can take a long time for budgie and owner to build up mutual trust, which is the basis for taming - you’ve only had your budgie a month and it’s actually recommended that you wait a couple of weeks for your bird to settle down before introducing your hand into the cage for anything other than daily cleaning/food/water necessities.

He will have wanted to come out of the cage initially as he’d be searching for the rest of his flock. Now, he recognises the cage as his safe place/home and isn’t yet very comfortable with what is outside of it.
He needs time and patience. Spend more time just sitting beside the cage and chatting to him. Open the cage door at times, so that he can choose to venture outside when he feels ready, but don’t force him. The cat could also very well have spooked him.

https://www.talkbudgies.com/general-b...irds-prey.html

Read through the stickies on the forum to help you have realistic expectations and alter your approach as needed - Start with the ‘new budgie arrivals’ section.
https://www.talkbudgies.com/general-b...-stickies.html

If he happily sits on your hand, and he happily eats millet from the bowl, then I’m not sure why he would ‘freak out’ when you try to feed him millet from your hand - did you hold a long strand of millet and the waving around scared him perhaps? Try just having a couple of millet balls in your palm and allow him to approach your hand rather than you approaching him.

If you have any questions after reading through, feel free to ask. Usually members are very good at answering promptly.

He doesn’t hate you, he’s just still deciding if he can trust you or not.
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Julia has given you excellent advice and the links she has provided are essential.

Reading the stickies will really give you a lot to think about in terms of things to do with your budgie and how to get from a tame bird and give you the steps to take to have a really good bond.
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Hi and welcome to the forum.

It can take a long time for budgie and owner to build up mutual trust, which is the basis for taming - you’ve only had your budgie a month and it’s actually recommended that you wait a couple of weeks for your bird to settle down before introducing your hand into the cage for anything other than daily cleaning/food/water necessities.

He will have wanted to come out of the cage initially as he’d be searching for the rest of his flock. Now, he recognises the cage as his safe place/home and isn’t yet very comfortable with what is outside of it.
He needs time and patience. Spend more time just sitting beside the cage and chatting to him. Open the cage door at times, so that he can choose to venture outside when he feels ready, but don’t force him. The cat could also very well have spooked him.

https://www.talkbudgies.com/general-b...irds-prey.html

Read through the stickies on the forum to help you have realistic expectations and alter your approach as needed - Start with the ‘new budgie arrivals’ section.
https://www.talkbudgies.com/general-b...-stickies.html

If he happily sits on your hand, and he happily eats millet from the bowl, then I’m not sure why he would ‘freak out’ when you try to feed him millet from your hand - did you hold a long strand of millet and the waving around scared him perhaps? Try just having a couple of millet balls in your palm and allow him to approach your hand rather than you approaching him.

If you have any questions after reading through, feel free to ask. Usually members are very good at answering promptly.

He doesn’t hate you, he’s just still deciding if he can trust you or not.


Thanks! The part about him looking for his flock makes a lot of sense and I'll definitely check out those links! I did try to give him a large string of millet and he was scared of it so I figured he was just scared of food larger than him, so then I tried giving him little tiny pieces and he still freaked out! Like hopping around and flapping his wings trying to get away! I even tried looking it up and couldn't find anything about it, it makes no sense! I don't try to force him to do it a lot but once in a while I try again because I want him to trust me. He was from a pet store, so maybe that is something to do with it?
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When I put my hand in the cage he happily sits on it, but if I try to offer him millet from my hand he COMPLETELY freaks out, but he'll eat it if I put it in his bowl.
I have learned that for a lot of budgies, if it is different, it is scary. And their definition of different is narrower than yours and mine. I have some birds that I first offered millet to as the long spray; they got used to that but were initially scared when I offered a small piece to them. Other birds were used to the small piece, and when I offered a large spray acted like I was threatening them with a deadly weapon. Same thing if I first offered it inside or outside the cage. Holding onto the little end or on my flat hand. I assume it's a survival thing.
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Hi there and to the forums!

I agree with the excellent advice offered above. Budgies are initially submissive for the first few weeks because they're terrified, and they may often act very friendly and outgoing because of fear. To help them settle in, we recommend giving them two weeks without trying to interact with them inside the cage and instead let them get used to their new environment. That being said, he's obviously settled in now-- the reason for his behavior is that now he's feeling comfortable enough in his new home that unknown things scare him, and his cage is his safe space, so he doesn't want to leave and gets scared when new things are introduced. This is perfectly natural, and there's nothing wrong with you or him-- you just need to find a different way to help him get used to new things, and not expect him to be okay with everything automatically (like coming out of the cage). Budgies can be skittish and they have excellent eyesight and memory, so seeing new things--any new thing!-- can totally freak them out.

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You've been given great advice above, but I wanted to add in my own experience with a fairly shy budgie. I've had Niko for 5 months now, and he's still a bit skittish around my hands and whenever I make a sudden movement. He's only come out of his cage twice on his own. It's taken him this long to get over some of his inhibitions, and he's still not totally comfortable, so don't be surprised if your budgie takes a long time as well. They're skittish little birds
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It's worth always remembering that your budgies individual personality will also have some effect on how they behave. besides from being new, some birds just don't want to come out of their cage as much.
I have a little flock of birds and when they have out of cage time there are certain ones in the group that will come out as soon as the door is open and others will only venture out maybe once or twice a week.
I just let them come out as they want too.
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