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Old 12-11-2017, 04:44 PM
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I'll start at the beginning, I got my new (and first!) budgie, Beverly, a couple of days ago. Last Wednesday, I believe. I've begun the taming process with her, but she isn't fully tamed yet.

She's very active and vocal!

But anyways, I was very distressed when talking to my mother recently, obviously on the brink of tears from the sound of my voice, and she began chirping in the same way she would when something is wrong, and wouldn't stop until I turned around and said something to her in my cheery tone, the one I reserve for talking to her.

Was she most likely to just be bored? Or was she afraid of me whenever I spoke like that? Or is it that she got sad because I was sad? I'm really not sure, and I'd be upset if I did end up scaring her.

Additional Info that I'm not sure matters- she's 6 months old, and I got her from Pet Supermarket. I normally wouldn't buy from a chain pet store, but she's the prettiest budgie I have ever seen in a store or from a breeder, and she was so active and vocal, I fell in love. My phone is broken, so sadly I cannot get a valid image of her. Her cage is very large, and she's not hesitant to use that space. She's my only budgie, as I got her for company, because I'm lonely a lot.

(Introduction post has been made, just not accepted yet because as I am writing this, It was just sent in.)


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Old 12-11-2017, 05:22 PM
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Hi again, Bonnie --

Your methods in working with your budgie are not the type that are going to engender trust in you at all.
Restraining your budgie in a towel and forcing her to be held against her will is not a method this forum condones.

Chasing her around the room is not fun for her, she's only been with you a few days and you are scaring her.

I've addressed these matters in your introductory post as well.

A budgie may be submissive initially when you get it, simply because it is terrified!

Taming and Bonding is all about helping your budgie learn to trust you and it takes a great deal of time and patience on your part.
You should never grab your budgie or force her to be touched.
To bond with your budgie, you need to build her trust in you.
She will have to learn over time that you will not hurt her, grab her and try to force her to allow you to hold her.

To build your budgie’s trust, sit by her cage and read, talk or sing quietly to her for a period of at least 10-15 minutes, 3 or 4 times day. After the 2nd or 3rd day, rest your hand on the outside of the cage when you talk to her so he'll learn that your hand is safe and will not hurt her.

After a week, rest your hand inside the cage when you talk.
Don’t make sudden moves, don’t try to touch her.
Let her get used to the idea that the hand is now in her safe place and not harming her.

After 2 weeks, begin moving your hand slowly toward your budgie. If she becomes agitated, stop moving your hand and just hold very still until she calms down. When she's comfortable with your hand near her, you can offer her a bit of millet or a few seeds. In a few more days, you can begin your taming and bonding sessions.

Always work at your budgie's pace.
Move slowly and talk reassuringly and calmly to her whenever you interact with her.

Good luck in working with Beverly.
If you take the time to interact with her gently, calmly and consistently, she will come to trust you over time.
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Old 12-11-2017, 05:34 PM
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Alright, I can't believe how everyone else told me the towel thing was a good idea, and it really wasn't.

I mean, I can believe it, and I do, but wow. That's, pretty disheartening that pretty much all the info I had on taming was false.

Also, just clarifying, me chasing her around the room is not what I ever want to do. That's only if she does escape and I have to. I realized I worded it like I wanted to, but I never do. I myself find it the complete opposite of fun.

I'll be slower with my interactions with her from now on, but I am very sorry as I probably will have to ask questions still in the future. I'm, very new to this.
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Bonnie,

Don't be sorry about asking questions, that is how we learn.

Take the time to read through all the information in the Budgie Articles and Stickies.
If you can't find answers to specific questions, then ask.
We will do our best to guide you to the specific links which address your issues and/or will give you advice if the matter is not addressed in one of the articles or stickies.

Learning about your budgie is a wonderful journey! I'm sure you are going to love it.
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Don't apologize, you are learning! There's a lot of bad information out there; that's why this forum exists!
If you have the time, see if you can wait for Beverly to go back into the cage on her own- if you don't do your best not to let her out (sometimes an impossible task I know).
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Old 12-11-2017, 06:03 PM
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Her cage was meant for a much larger bird than her, and the stand is about as tall as my legs (granted I'm, incredibly short. Done growing and 4'11.5...) and while she always at first tries to get up there, her wings were pre-clipped to not go more than about 1.5 ft (I think? estimating distance is difficult.) and the cage is about 2 ft up. So sadly, while she will try to go back in, she cannot, at least, could not last time I checked.

I haven't let her out in three days, and with having more space above her, she's began to learn to leap and fly higher and higher, so, maybe now she can and I'm wrong, but, I'd rather not test it out! (I don't know how to imply humor without using pfff so pretend I did imply humor, as that's how I intended it to be.)

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Old 12-11-2017, 06:28 PM
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As indicated, it will be best for Beverly to remain in her cage for a minimum of the next two weeks before you start letting her venture out.

You indicated the cage was meant for a much larger bird.
Is the spacing between the bars greater than 1/2"?

It isn't safe to keep budgies in cages with spacing between the bars that is greater than 1/2" as they can get their heads caught between the bars.
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I just checked the bars and, they're very tightly packed. The gap would be, a little less than half an inch I'd say. It's difficult to explain, but the distance from the very end of the left bar to the very end of the right bar would be 1/2 an inch, but the gap is minus the length of those two bars, so it'd be about... 3/8th's an inch? I'm pretty sure it should be okay, the length of the gap is a tiny bit more than the length of the side of my finger.

In short- The gap is a tiny bit (like 1/8) less than half an inch.

I'm not good at explaining stuff.
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That's fine.

I'm closing this thread now.
Please post any additional questions regarding Beverly in your thread linked below:

https://www.talkbudgies.com/budgie-be...e-beverly.html
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