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Old 06-15-2019, 04:35 PM
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Hi all. I've been on a bit. I have (had) 2 boys that were rescues from a pet hoarding situation. They were very bonded, and I've had them for 2 years. One died yesterday. He had been sick on and off so I was expecting it, but still so very sad today. Is it possible that my remaining guy will bond more with me now, without his mate? Of the 2 birds, he is the more skittish and fearful. His mate was very calm, but neither were hand tamed. They both have had a bond of sorts with me, though, as I am in their room every day, most days, working. I won't get another bird because the remaining boy is the more aggressive and reactive, and I don't think that it would go over well. So, he's got me as a mate now. Is there anything I can do to help him through this loss? Thank you so much!

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Old 06-16-2019, 09:07 PM
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I'm sorry for the loss of your budgie. :hug.
You can definitely spend more time with the remaining budgie and over time he will learn to trust you more.

To build your budgie’s trust, sit by his cage and read, talk or sing quietly to him for a period of at least 10-15 minutes, 3 or 4 times day. After a few days, simply rest your hand on the outside of the cage when you talk to him so he'll learn that your hand is safe and will not hurt him.

The more time you spend interacting with him, the more he will learn to trust you.
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Thank you! I appreciate the input! The great news is that he lives in my home office, so I'm with him much of the day, every day. His cage is right next to my desk, and I play "bird music" for him while I work and talk to him. I think he'll come around! Thanks for the suggestions
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I’m sorry for the loss of your other budgie. I know he’ll come around. Birds go through a short mourning period when they lose a friend. Some budgies become moody and withdrawn, and don’t want any fuss over them. Others might benefit from your presence in a gentle way. Sometime within most likely the next couple weeks to a month, you’ll see him adjust to a new normal. It’s a great opportunity to get him used to trusting you.
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Not sure what "bird music" is... do you mean budgies chirping? If so, I'd limit that and spend more time talking and singing to him.
You can play "regular" music for him.

(Too much budgie chirping "music" can agitate a solo budgie more than it calms them as they start looking for the other birds.)
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I am sorry for your loss. Make sure to give yourself time to grieve too.
Are these the same two, you posted awhile, back that came from a hoarding situation?
Budgies are very resilient. Just give him and you time. Again I am very sorry for your loss.
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I am sorry for your loss. Make sure to give yourself time to grieve too.
Are these the same two, you posted awhile, back that came from a hoarding situation?
Budgies are very resilient. Just give him and you time. Again I am very sorry for your loss.
Yes, she indicated in her initial post in this thread that these are the birds from the hoarding situation.
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