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Old 02-17-2020, 05:36 PM
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I know females can be bossy, but every now and then Kiwi will just charge hard at Ben for no apparent reason and kinda open her beak a bit almost like a fighting pose. Like real mean. She doesn't actually bite or scratch him.

Ben is very much a proper gentleman, so of course he doesn't attack. He just jumps away and lets her calm down, which usually just takes a few seconds.

They're usually really friendly with each other, hanging out, preening, regurgitating and all that, but this does happen from time to time.

Lately, I've been looking and pointing directly at Kiwi and talking in a stern tone immediately when she does it, getting very close to her. Not yelling, just stern and telling her "no, you don't do that to Ben" etc. It makes her stop and look at me, and she kind of puts her head down a bit almost as if she knows she's being scolded. Then again, I could be totally misreading her little budgie brain's behavior.

I don't hold a grudge with her or anything like that. As soon as the behavior stops, I interact with her normally again and all is well.

Am I handling this the right way? Does she even know that what I'm doing means she is misbehaving? Am I unintentionally ENcouraging it? Or is there even anything I can do to discourage it? lol

Even after 3+ years, plenty of parrot behavior is still a mystery to me!

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Old 02-18-2020, 08:12 AM
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A little bit of bickering is normal, but if she's outright attacking him then it would be best to separate them before she injures him.

It could be due to hormones, they are powerful this time of year!
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I wouldn't call it attacking exactly. It's more like very heavy, but brief bullying. She's never actually tried to hurt him at all. She just tries to show dominance in a very aggressive way. She just gets right up in his face, screeches at him and bullies him away from where he was. This happens maybe 3 times a week.

Sometimes he stands his ground and they end up in a standoff for a few seconds, but again she never hurts him or vice versa.

I'd really like to discourage this if possible, but there's nothing going on that makes me feel like she needs to have her own cage. At least not so far.

Typically, her bullying was limited to just kicking him off the food dish or swing perch occasionally and it was never super aggressive. She'd just jump in his way, and he'd go find something else to do for a while.

They're usually best buddies. Just this morning I took the cover off the cage and she was preening his head as sweet as could be lol.

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Hi there, I just wanted to chime in. Do you have more than one food and water dish in the cage, as well as a selection of perches, toys and swings in choice places? That way if your hen pushes your boy off a food dish or perch, he can go to another.


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Hi there, I just wanted to chime in. Do you have more than one food and water dish in the cage, as well as a selection of perches, toys and swings in choice places? That way if your hen pushes your boy off a food dish or perch, he can go to another.


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Hi Blingy. Yeah there are two food bowls and swings in similar places. Only one water dish, but they're really good about sharing that for whatever reason.

Usually there's not even a big fuss over the food, but she's super territorial about the swings. Like she could be sitting on one swing, then Ben gets on the other and she goes and kicks him off... then goes back to the first swing lol. Sometimes she just doesn't want him to have one. Goofball.

She's behaving at the moment at least!

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Has she always been like this or did it begin recently? If recent, as PoukieBear said it may be hormonal and will pass. I am familiar with swing wars I have a similar problem with a pair of mine but it only happens at bedtime, she will push him off a swing, he goes to another and she follows and pushes him off that one too.
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In looking at the picture of your budgies, I'd like to suggest that you remove the wooden dowel perch in the cage and replace it with natural wooden perches of varying diameters to help prevent pressure sores. (This is especially important since the swings you have in the cage are plastic. If you can find perches with natural branch perches I would recommend getting those as well.)

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Cody: She's always done the minor bickering over food/perches, but the real mean flashes have been more recent. She hasn't done it in maybe 4 days now though, so maybe it just was hormones and they're calming down again.

FaeryBee: I have been thinking about getting some new perches for inside the cage, though they have a couple of natural perches mounted on the outside.

They're allowed to roam free almost all day unless people are coming over who aren't used to having to think about bird safety, so they spend a lot of time outside the cage on these! Or pretty much anything else around the house that they feel needs a fresh layer of budgie poop.

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Glad to hear you do have some natural perches available for them.

I would suggest you also add some the to interior of the cage rather than the dowel rod when you can.
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