More than 20 years ago We had a large dog that was quite willful and even be fore she was 3 months old I begged to be allowed to take her to obedience class. Well, I got my wish and we went to class. the very first thing, even before the class officially started she all but yanked my arm out of the socket and pulled me out of our assigned position over to a stretch of soft cool green grass, where she proceeded to roll over and over with great puppy celebration.
I was terribly frustrated and red faced because I was unable to force my puppy child to do things my way. I was certainly not in control. Samantha was highly intelligent and had it all figured out to my dismay!!!! The first thing we learned in obedience class was that the people handling their dogs were the students coming to class not the pups. For the rest of her very long life, 16+ years, She was always ready to test my resolve.
We learned to love each other and in her final days, she was quite lame in the hind quarters. I also had and have similar leg problems. Our side door opened to an enclose, just down 3 steps. Going out was not too bad, but going in was a huge challenge. She was able to walk with the support of a soft sling under her belly. I remember so clearly the day on the return trip when we struggled, each of us, to mount each step, we would stop and we looked each other in the eyes. That time was near! On each step, we stopped and waited for each other. Some times I took the lead and some times she would take that painful next step, each waiting and helping the other. Each of us had finally learned to have loving patience one for the other.
So what is a dog story got to do with pellets and birds? First of all just stop right now and put "My Way" out of your mind!. You are here to learn how birds experience and deal with life's challenges! You can not any way bend that little creature to your way. If you can not let go of "my Way" I suggest you get a fish tank and fill it with tropicals for pets. and find another home for your budgie.
In this new relationship, you are the little kid going to school and your teacher is that exasperating little bird. You must pay close attention to every lesson, all of the time. Nature instilled a bird with a sense of danger concerning things to eat, unless their parents taught them that this item was OK. Most budgies do not get much time to learn before a human breeder some place tears them away from their safe family and they go through a number changes as they wait for some one to take them home. They are afraid and lonely and constantly having to compete with a lot of strange other birds for food and survival. Forget the birds of prey, the danger starts with learning who to trust among the budgies they live with every day.
I suggest, that you stop forcing your bird to do anything and learn to invite this little being to learn to trust you and be your friend under budgie rules not yours. Learn the amazing feeling when birdy first willing steps up on your finger. It really is a big deal in the process of communication, and impatience, does not belong in the process. Find the humility needed to let this little bird show you how it is done. No male Macho stuff allowed. You are not in charge!!! You are putting all sorts of barriers up before you present the first pellet. Hundreds of TB members have managed to introduce pellets and gain their birds trust and acceptance. In most cases, it is not fast, nor easy but it is doable. TRUST is at the base of all that comes next and you cannot skip that step!!! You might try talking to Wiki/AnneMarie about clicker training. You have a young bird and it is not the end of the world if your bird ever eats pellets as long as it has a variety of fresh foods and protein like eggs some where in the diet. I will let some one else try to show you a process that can work into having pellets to eat, but trust and respect and patience comes first!! Enjoy life with your budgie. No excuses please.
Blessings, Jo Ann