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Old 03-10-2015, 11:06 AM
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Hi everyone. I've read the sticky on introducing budgies, but couldn't find anything about this particular situation. Hoping for any tips or assurances it'll get better in time, because we really don't want to get a THIRD budgie (and cage!).

A couple weeks after we got our female budgie, we got a male to keep her company. She was thrilled to have another budgie in the house, perking up and responding whenever she heard him. We placed the cages next to each other a few days ago, after quarantine, and she's fascinated with her would-be friend. She runs up and cheeps at him, constantly tries to get his attention, and even brings seed over to eat near him.

The trouble is the male seems completely disinterested in her. He's settled in and is eating well, and constantly chatters to his toys, but he's never paid any attention to her even when in quarantine.

We tried letting them both out yesterday, and the female flew right to his side and kept trying to preen and feed him. The male ignored her for a while, just backing up when she got in his face, but ended up pecking at her when she wouldn't give up. We put them back in their individual cages when it started getting forceful.

Today is much the same, with him chortling happily to himself while she pines from afar We've tried moving his favourite toy to her cage in the hopes he'll socialise more, but he's just starting chattering to a different toy instead. He's not even talking to his reflection, since none of their toys contain mirrors.

We'd really like them to at least keep each other company, but their personalities seem incompatible right now. Is it likely she'll back off a little with age and learn some birdy manners? Has anyone had a budgie become more friendly in time, or could he just be a 'loner' by nature?

Any advice would be a big help, I feel so bad for them both. She desperately wants to be his friend, and he finds her annoying and wants to be left alone!

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Old 03-10-2015, 11:37 AM
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I think they just have different ways of responding to a new budgie, just as you said they have different personalities. It looks like the boy is a bit overwhelmed, while the girl is over the top happy about him. I recently watched my old, old boy meet my sisters new 2 month old baby, and it was exactly how you describe it. The old one sat still, opening his beak in a threatening way every time the baby ran up to him, who was super exited. The kid ran back and forth over and over again, chirped like crazy and went all bonkers. After a day in the same cage (they have a big cage, and they where first introduced outside it), they started to settle down. The young one was still kinda crazy, but they had a little vomit cuddle and all. I'm not so updated to the situation, but they are doing completely fine after what I've heard. The old one has always been like that, he needs to have some time to adapt, but there is no need for separating them in different cages. You can let them get to know each other some more outside the cage, but I think they should be together and get time. The girl will, just as the kid, calm down and act like she normally does. Your boy will, just as the old guy, loosen up and stop being weird. If you get a third budgie, the asocial boy will probably end up as the third wheel, so I highly advice you just build on your two budgies relationship. It'll all work out with time
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It's early days yet, don't give up continue to let them be side by side in the cages and let out together. You could try to place them both in the same cage for awhile but first rearrange the cage set up so it is not as before. If the cage is left how it was sometimes this causes dominance issues as the budgies sees the cage as being it's own when a new bird is added.
Time might settle the excitement down, how old are the two budgies may I ask?
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I think they just have different ways of responding to a new budgie, just as you said they have different personalities. It looks like the boy is a bit overwhelmed, while the girl is over the top happy about him. I recently watched my old, old boy meet my sisters new 2 month old baby, and it was exactly how you describe it. The old one sat still, opening his beak in a threatening way every time the baby ran up to him, who was super exited. The kid ran back and forth over and over again, chirped like crazy and went all bonkers. After a day in the same cage (they have a big cage, and they where first introduced outside it), they started to settle down. The young one was still kinda crazy, but they had a little vomit cuddle and all. I'm not so updated to the situation, but they are doing completely fine after what I've heard. The old one has always been like that, he needs to have some time to adapt, but there is no need for separating them in different cages. You can let them get to know each other some more outside the cage, but I think they should be together and get time. The girl will, just as the kid, calm down and act like she normally does. Your boy will, just as the old guy, loosen up and stop being weird. If you get a third budgie, the asocial boy will probably end up as the third wheel, so I highly advice you just build on your two budgies relationship. It'll all work out with time
Thanks, it's a huge relief to hear it can work out! Poor boys, it must be so hard for them to put up with these crazy kids. I'm glad your boy has settled in alright, vomit cuddles and all.

We'll probably try the joint cage soon, the girl might calm down faster if she can be near the boy all the time. My partner is pretty handy and was talking about joining the cages together, so if he manages it we'll give it a go.

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It's early days yet, don't give up continue to let them be side by side in the cages and let out together. You could try to place them both in the same cage for awhile but first rearrange the cage set up so it is not as before. If the cage is left how it was sometimes this causes dominance issues as the budgies sees the cage as being it's own when a new bird is added.
Time might settle the excitement down, how old are the two budgies may I ask?
Thanks for your help, we definitely won't give up. We'll make sure to rearrange the cage before putting them together, maybe when I have a day off to check nobody loses an eye.

The youngest was 7 weeks when we got her, so about three months now. Cracking seed on her own, but she really should have spent longer with her parents to fully master flying (thankfully, she's learning from the older one now). As for him, we think he's about 4-6 months, but he could be older. He was with a sibling who was supposed to be from the same clutch. She still had her baby bars, but he's already gone through his first moult, and being a recessive pied we can't tell his age from iris rings either.
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Budgies do have preferences when bonding with another budgie. So long as they don't injure each other, they're fine. Just let them bond (or not bond) as they wish.
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