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Old 06-09-2015, 05:27 PM
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Hi everyone!

Well, I'm here to ask you all about a touchy situation... Since Billy passed away, Lola has been much friendlier with me. Obviously, it's because she now considers me as part of her flock.

I've been slowly training her to perch in the door of her cage because I want her to get out and fly around. Whenever she goes to the open door, I give her millet and I also very often give her kisses.

Now, here comes the funny part. Every second day or so, when I come to give her kisses, she arches her back alot. I know that's the position that budgies get into when they want to mate with their partner. Obviously, I can't give her what she wants but I feel bad for her. Ever since she's been by herself, she spends most of her days chewing on things and I feel like that might be because she's sexually frustrated.

I put a little piece of fabric in her cage, so that she could go on it, but she doesn't seem to be interested. Is there anything I can do for her?

Also, sometimes when she's giving me kisses she ends up biting my lip really really hard, to the point where it makes me cry from pain . I don't know how to avoid this or make her stop. Any suggestions?

Thanks so much.


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Old 06-10-2015, 12:29 AM
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I'm so sorry for your loss of Billy!
It sounds like Lola is going though a rough period of readjustment. You could do one of two things: Ignore her "frustration", continue giving her lots of attention, shreddable toys and discourage conditioning for mating, or think about getting her a new mate. I think she would be fine alone, since she seems so bonded to you, but a new mate might help her also.

Unfortunately things like this arise after the loss of a mate sometimes. Best of luck to you both!
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Old 06-10-2015, 02:15 PM
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Thing is, Billy passed away in the end of January. So it's been about 5 months and Lola seemed to be adjusting mainly during the first few weeks. She was nervous after Billy left her.

Now she's fine, except for the whole sexual thing and the destroying everything (and the biting). I do ignore her frustrations, because I can't actually give her what she wants even if I wanted to. But she's still always asking. She has lots of toys to destroy and play with, but she spends most of her time chewing than playing. She actually managed to chew out pieces of thick leather.

She also managed to take off one of the tiny mirrors from one of her toys (which btw I wonder if I could glue back on).

I would like to get her a friend, but my husband doesn't agree. He loves Lola but doesn't agree to the principle of having birds in cages and domesticating them. So, he doesn't want another bird with us even though I've told him many times that it's unfair to Lola.
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It sounds like Lola is in condition, is her cere brown? This is why she is presenting herself to you and the chewing often gets more intense at this time as well. What do you have in her cage may I ask? If you have any hanging hammocks or huts I would take those out any thing that could be seen as nesting material. Also Don't glue any toys unless it is a bird safe glue
As far as the biting goes my boy Budget sometimes bites thankfully not hard, I have learned it is almost always from frustration and he is trying to tell me something.
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Lola has been acting this way for about 4 months. Her cere is brown right now, but she was acting this way (chewing and wanting to mate) even when it wasn't brown.

I have ropes, perches and toys. No huts of hammocks. Only put a piece of fabric hanging from a wall a couple of days ago and she doesn't even go near it.

I did think that the biting could be due to frustrations but after biting me she usually goes back to giving me kisses as if nothing ever happened. So, I don't know...

Also, have you guys ever noticed that if you make kissy sounds with your mouth and put a finger over your mouth, it sounds like a budgie? Everytime I do that Lola reacts like I'm really another budgie having a conversation with her.
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So, does anyone have more answers? I feel bad for her. She's pretty much begging and multiple times a day.
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I really think getting a new companion would be a very good idea to ward off her loneliness. Also, maybe a new male companion may help in changing her behavior. Does she have cuttlebone in her cage at all times? It would be good for her beak and shredding needs.
Good luck with Lola.
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Hi Sunnydyazz,

Sadly, as I've said earlier, getting Lola a mate isn't a possibility. So, I'm looking for solutions that exclude getting her a new friend.

She does have a cuttlebone in her cage all the time plus a mineral block, wooden sticks and other chewable toys.

I know I'll never be as present with Lola as another budgie could, but I do give her alot of attention everyday.
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Does anyone know how long the mating period can last? Because her cere is still brown and it's been a good 3 weeks now.
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First, I'd take all the mirrors out.

Budgies and mirrors don't mix well. They end up getting attached to themselves, and that makes them very sexually frustrated, and makes them bite people harder than they normally would.

Once the mirrors are out, see if anything changes. If she settles down, then the mirrors were the problem.
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