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Old 07-30-2015, 04:31 AM
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Hi everyone, so i have had my male budgie (lilac) for almost a year now and he has been alone for a while, hes very active, says hello baby etc.. And so four months ago i decided to get a new girl budgie and named her 'fall' because she falls a lot lol, but anyways, once i knew she wasnt sick i paired them together and he was very awkward around her lol but then he started to 'talk to her' and hit his beak on hers and she looked uncomfortable lol

but after a month she was tamed and then she started to be so mean to him! Like she'd make this dolphin noise WENEVER hes anywhere close to her and she'd hit him, and if hes taking a nap she'd grap his wing wither her beak and he'd wake up going EEE EEE and one time i caught her staring at his foot and she just bite it and wouldnt let go of his foot so i had to break it up. He moves away wenever she comes towards him, especially if they are eating. But he does love her. Sometimes shed let him sit close to her and he'd say hello and baby or meow and do different noises and shed make these little chirps but idk why shes so mean to him, is there anyways i can make these two bond?

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Old 07-30-2015, 05:05 AM
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Given the fact your Fall actually locked her beak into Lilac's foot and you were forced to break them up, for your boys' safety it's best to separate them into their own cages.
There is a difference between a light bickering and constant bullying that leads to more vicious fighting.
Whenever a budgie is constantly harassing the other, chasing around, heavy pecking with some feather plucking mixed in, blatantly attacking the feet like your Fall did, the best course of action really is to cage them separately and on a permanent basis.
You can keep the cages close by so that they can still see and talk to each other.
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Old 07-30-2015, 06:03 AM
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I agree with Aluz, if you keep the, together your Lilac could be seriously injured or even worse. Some hens are extremely bad and when she comes into condition her hormones will be all over the place. House them in separate cages , they can still have out of cage time together but supervised.
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Given the fact your Fall actually locked her beak into Lilac's foot and you were forced to break them up, for your boys' safety it's best to separate them into their own cages.
There is a difference between a light bickering and constant bullying that leads to more vicious fighting.
Whenever a budgie is constantly harassing the other, chasing around, heavy pecking with some feather plucking mixed in, blatantly attacking the feet like your Fall did, the best course of action really is to cage them separately and on a permanent basis.
You can keep the cages close by so that they can still see and talk to each other.
Ok i just seperated them now, over time with their cages close together, will she eventually bond with him and be nicer?


This is them right now and wenver theyre out she leaves him alone but inside she keeps bothering him but i separated them for now
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She is being territorial when they are in the cage, she doesn't want him in her territory. When they are out of the cage it won't worry her as much.
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It's best to keep them separated at least for a good while and to closely supervise their out of cage time. Also pay extra attention whenever Fall visits Lilac's cage or vice versa, this could also give you a clue as to their interactions and behaviour while you are closely watching them.
If I were in your situation, I wouldn't trust nor be comfortable by letting them share a cage especially when I'm not there to watch them.
Personally, I would house them separately on a permanent basis, but within view of each other.
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I agree with Cathy and Aluz, hens can be vicious to any budgie that's in their territory! I wouldn't keep them in the same cage for any reason! I hope her hormone situation passes soon!
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I'm sorry but males are just easier for the most part. Especially for first time budgie owners.
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I agree with aluz and would never house the two of them together.

I suggest you allow them to enjoy out-of-cage time with one another under close supervision only.
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Awww poor little guy. I had this problem too, a few years back. After taking in a rescue that went unclaimed and then unwanted by the person who found her, I ended up with a somewhat aggressive hen. Shortly after getting a cute little boy that was supposed to be our ONLY bird.

I kept them separate for the standard quarantine time and then started to let them get to know each other from their respective cages.
Long story is she decided she was the boss and after several tries I decided that they would have to stay in separate cages. All the while poor boy just wanted to be with her sooooo bad and wouldn't do much besides cling to the side of his cage trying to get to her.
I went back and forth a few times over the years trying now and then to let them be together (they do appreciate each others company) but I didn't trust her to not be mean when I wasn't around supervising out of cage time.


Sorry for going on and on but I wanted to leave you with a little glimmer of hope... that she may mellow out with time (years) I highly doubt it and sounds like they will have to stay in their own cages but thought you may like to hear that you're not alone.


Several weeks ago I let them be in the same cage. He was so pathetic trying, crying and chewing at the bars of his cage to get to her that I gave it another try...
NOTE: I am most always at home due to a disability and keep them in my bed room next to me for my own sanity, as well to keep a close eye on my little friends. My hen is still the dominate bird but has accepted him and lets him preen her and feed her but that's the limit. She will chase him off if he's trying to get a treat from me or if he gets too close to HER food dish. But for now its working. I always keep a second cage ready just in case I have to go back to the old arrangement, though.

I didn't ever expect to be able to let them be with each other even a couple years ago but time can change things I guess.

I don't recommend letting them stay in the same cage at all, at this time! And with your girl already attacking it may never be an option just wanted to share that I can relate to your situation. Good luck.
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