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Hi everyone, I need your help.

I used to have two female parakeets, Bijou and Sky. They were very happy together and kept each other company.

Unfortunately, in February, Bijou developed tumors inside of her and she had to be put down It was a sad time for my family, but Sky seemed to be okay with having a little more space and more food.

However, since then, we have gotten a cat, and she has to stay locked in my bedroom. I go up to visit her all the time, and we leave the radio on for her, but she seems to sit in one corner of her cage and not move. Even when the cat is at my Dad's house, she still seems unhappy.

I want to make her happy and more comfortable, but I have never been super close to these two parakeets. Sky always moves away from me when I go near her cage, and nothing I do seems to make her happy.

Does anyone have any advice on cheering her up? I really want to bond with her and make her happy, but I can't seem to get it right.

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Old 08-12-2015, 02:00 AM
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I think budgies in general on their own don't really do well. Unless, that's how they choose to live their life. FOr instance, they were aggressive so they got seperated and they do better on their own now. From what i understand, this seems to not be the case for sky. She seems to be doing better with a pair. I would highly suggest getting her a friend. I have also a similar problem. I have a total of three birds. Two of my birds are bonded but the other one is sort of left out because she doesn't have a pair, even though they live in the same cage, i do find her on her own playing with her mirror and honestly it looks a bit depressing. Due to this, i do find her a bit lonely because even though my other two pairs get along with her, she has no one to preen her or chat with her. In a few months i will be getting her a beautiful male birdie.
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I agree with Fatma. Budgies who have been in a pair almost always need another friend their whole lives.

Also, since she'll be spending more time alone because of the cat, this is another good reason to get her another friend. I'm so sorry to hear about Bijou

Because quarantine lasts 5-6 weeks, if you get her a friend now, she will have moved on from grieving and be ready to accept the newcomer and you will get a chance to bond with the new guy.

Best of luck! Keep us posted and I hope Sky feels better.
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I completely agree. The fact that Sky was bonded to another budgie indicate that she's not the solitary kind. Unless such budgie has someone to spend most of their waking time with, they can't be happy. Getting Sky a friend is the way to go.

Try and find a reputable breeder in your area if you can, and see who's got babies available.
A good breeder will also be able to inform you on parents' temperament, which is a good indication of the babies personality (you want a bird who will be as compatible with Sky as possible).

Keep us posted!
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Sky is used to being with a budgie friend she is mourning the loss of her mate. If you can get her another friend that would definitely be the way to go . She isn't happy sitting in the corner on her own as you realize. And now that you have a cat she is away from the action whilst you are not home. I hope she feels better soon.
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Hi and to Talk Budgies!

Poor little Sky is feeling very alone right now.
The fact that she's alone in your room most of the time is probably adding to her depression.

You indicate you'd like to bond with her -- to do so you are going to need to spend a good deal of time with her... hanging out, reading, singing and talking with her on a regular basis. Getting Sky a budgie friend will probably be the best thing you can do her.
Please remember that you should quarantine the new bird(s) for 4-6 weeks.
Quarantine means housing your new bird in a different cage in a different room as far away as possible from the room your current bird(s) is in for a period of 4-6 weeks.

Budgies mask symptoms when they are ill. Symptoms may not show up for over two weeks. Often you will not even realize your bird is not well. Many budgie illnesses are airborne which is why you need to quarantine your new bird in a completely different room.

To familiarize yourself with the forums, please take the time to read through all of the How To Guides, the FAQs and the stickies located at the top of each section of the forum.
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I'm looking forward to hearing more about your Sky and hopefully seeing some pictures soon!!

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Unfortunately everyone, even though I understand the importance of having another partner for Sky, my mother says that she cannot afford another I dont want to give her away, so is there anything that I can do for her?

She is very old (around 12 years old) and I dont know how much longer she will be with us, so I want to make the time count
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Unfortunately everyone, even though I understand the importance of having another partner for Sky, my mother says that she cannot afford another I dont want to give her away, so is there anything that I can do for her?

She is very old (around 12 years old) and I dont know how much longer she will be with us, so I want to make the time count
If you are unable to get her a friend, then you need to spend as much time with her as possible.
Sit next to her cage and talk, sing and read to her. Do as many of your activities as possible in your room so she isn't alone.
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You mentioned making her final years count, i believe. I am wondering if she has any toys in her cage. Maybe make some new ones (lots in DIY section)

Defiantly spend MORE time with her. Even you never get to touch or hold her, having a live person to provide some stimulation I think would help. Start slow and move slowly around her cage. And talk to her even if it feel silly.
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You said she got moved away from the busier part of the house because of the cat?
I'm thinking get her back to the main part of the house and train the cat!

Water in a spray bottle does wonder to get the message across. As long as you make sure that the cage is in a place that the cat can't get to and push around (a big hook firmly screwed to the ceiling if nowhere else is available). At first have the bird in the busier part of the house only when you"re around. As soon as and every time the cat shows any sort of interest in the bird (looking at it is interest) say 'NO' in your biggest voice at the same time as you reward him with a squirt of water. Keep doing this as long as he keeps showing interest -he'll stop sooner than you think. Then the only thing you have to do is keep the spray bottle in full sight of the cat near the cage, at all times. A little reminder every so often will make sure that your cat keeps ignoring the bird.

As a mother, I know that when I say 'we can't afford it' I also think 'but see if you can earn it.' Is there any way you could make a deal with your mom so that either of you can buy a second bird?

In any case, she is a flock bird and needs company, from you as well as the rest of the family if at all possible. When there is no-one else in the house keep putting music on or even better, budgies sounds (some nice long tracks on YouTube).

Toys can be bought but they can also be made. Check out the DIY section on the forum.

All the best!
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