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Old 04-17-2016, 03:13 AM
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I've had my two budgies for about a month now. Keep in mind I am working to be a more patient person and I thought owning these little guys would help me do that. I have a male (Aquarius) and female (Rhea). They've both bonded in the short time they've been together despite getting them at different times. For the past couple of days, I've been thinking about separating them (giving one away to someone else). I want them to bond with me but nothing I do works at all. Yes, I know owning two of them will make the taming process longer, but I felt bad for Aquarius because he seemed so lonely. I see videos of other budgies on youtube doing cute things and I want mine to do that as well. So I think either giving Rhea away might let Aquarius focus on me more since there is no one else who takes care of him, or possibly giving both of them away and starting fresh with another bird. I want them to go to a better home, because I get frustrated whenever they do not listen to me and I feel I'll do something that I will regret. I do not want them to fear me which they do now. Any advice?

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Personally I feel like a budgie might not be the best pet for you. You are working on your personal issues but until you do, its not fair to subject any animal to a loss of temper. Theres no guarantee that you will ever get the cute bird you have seen on YouTube as this takes months of work and patience.
Not all birds do as well as bonding with humans either.

Have you looked to see how long even basic trust takes to gain in budgies?
I think you need to do a lot out research about budgies to see if they are the pet for you and then decide about the current birds you have.
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Old 04-17-2016, 05:43 AM
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I agree with Therm and would say you should own a pet only when you have dealt with your issues. You won't get sweet and nice bird who develops strong bond with you until you are calm, patient and stress free. It takes time to gain budgie's trust and then you have to make sure you don't loose it. I like to think about birds as our companions and you have to be able to build relationships with them and where is neglect there can't be good relationship

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I'm sorry to hear you are having personal problems and I think it is important you spend your time focusing on those at this time in your life.

In my personal opinion, it would be best for your two budgies for you to rehome them to a safe loving home with a stable environment that can take care of them in the way they deserve. The fact you get frustrated and are concerned you may do something you'll regret is a warning sign that should not be ignored. For the budgies' well-being, take the steps necessary to fend them a good home.

I would not recommend getting a pet at this point in time.
Seek a support group or trusted friends that can help you work on your personal issues. In the future, should you feel the desire for a pet, I would suggest you do extensive research with regard to the species before making any decisions.

Best wishes.
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I too feel having the budgies at this point in time is not helpful in your situation. Budgies are a nervous type of bird that react to stress and unease, they will pick up on your mood and body language and act accordingly.
It is showing you care by addressing this here, well done for having the courage.
Please don't separate them ,if possible rehome them to a loving new forever home.
Take the time to help yourself, maybe you can offer to help out at a refuge or other such organisation. this way you will be with other people and animals . If you are not feeling quite up to it then have a day away from it. I hope your feeling better soon and the sun shines through.
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I fully agree with the advices you have been given. At this point in time, it would be in your budgies' best interest for them to be rehomed.
It would be a plus if they could go to an owner who has prior experience in budgie and pet bird ownership. This way your budgies would have better chances of reaching a good balance and being properly socialized through continued work.
Any pet, regardless of species should not be the cause or add further stress or frustration to their owner, quite the contrary, a pet should be a source of constant joy and happiness.
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I noticed that you said you had these budgies for only a month but they were bought at different times. Did you quarantine the new one for ~45 days to avoid any possible contagion? Please know that pets require both patience AND research.

The "I'll do something that I will regret" part of your post really concerns me. Do not harm them or let them loose to fend for themselves. Rehome your budgies if you cannot ensure their safety in their current living environment.

While its nice and oftentimes beneficial to have pets, they will not always fit your idea of what a companion should be. This is not the fault of the pet. They are their own beings.

Also, please do not "start fresh" with another bird simply because your first two didn't meet your expectations.

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I agree with every one else .please rehome your budgies ,you are not a bad person for not being able to handle having them right now.maybe someday you will. And remember birds are not for everyone and thats ok.

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I agree with what has been said and just wanted to further comment on what Linda said.
Coming here and admitting this is a wonderful thing. It show that you are self aware and caring and want the best for your birds and are admitting to a short falling currently in your care for them.
I can not stress how brilliant it is to have that kind of self realisation.

I do really agree that you should re-home these birds. Well done for thinking of their well being.
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Thank you everyone for your advice I do sincerely appreciate all of it. I've made the decision to give to a friend or possibly post an ad in my neighborhood. I will clean all the bird supplies and store it away for another point in time. When I feel I can handle a bird(s) again I will set up the environment once more. I am so used to the attention that my dog gives me so I just expected that from them. I really wanted this to workout but I see that I need to become a more patient and understanding person. Hopefully in the future that time will come.

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