05-21-2016, 10:12 PM
I'm going to talk to you very directly as I would a very close friend.
You've asked for advice and I'm going to tell you the truth as I perceive it.
The first mistake you are making is by grabbing your male when he is in his cage. Everytime you grab him, you break whatever little trust he has in you. Allowing your budgie to choose when and if he wishes to leave his cage is the proper way to work with him.
Taming and bonding takes time and patience. It requires you work at your budgie's pace, however slow that may be.
Additionally, if it turns out you have a budgie that prefers not to be touched, then you need act in a mature and responsible manner.
Owning a pet means doing what is in the pet's best interest, not trying to make it conform to what you want it to be.
I do not think you should get any other budgies, male, female, babies or adults.
I truly believe you need to learn as much about the budgies you currently have and how to give them the best possible care rather than thinking about getting more.
I believe the idea of a lovely male friend for your female is more about what you want than what your female needs or wants.
There is a very good chance your female will not accept any other budgie.
She may well prefer being a solo bird.
Additionally, putting a male with the female would mean you would have to discourage egg laying.
Your female has been through too much in her short life to ever consider breeding her.
If you truly want to tame and bond with your budgies, then take a look at the various threads in the taming and bonding section of the forum.
Work at your budgie's pace and stop trying to force him to behave in the way you want him to.
Learn to respect him as a living creature with his own unique personality and love him just as he is.