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Old 08-23-2016, 12:00 PM
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hello everyone

I am devastated to say that our lovely lemmy died yesterday. he was such a soft soppy boy, and we are heartbroken. he was only 2, but was a big fluffy half show bird who never could fly, so I think his little heart just didn't get enough exercise, however much he ran around

the question that we now have is what to do with our remaining bird. we have had rocky since he was a little chick, but whilst he tolerates us, he's never been that tame because he was always far more interested in lemmy. ironically, had we lost rocky, lemmy probably wouldn't have noticed, but rocky was obsessed with lemmy (mostly chasing him around the cage looking for attention). now he is pining for lemmy and is all sad and thin. when we let him out, he just flies back to the cage. he does seem to be eating, and he is singing, but he's a sad little bird and it's just adding to the heartbreak of losing lemmy!

whilst i would miss him very much, I think he might be happy in a bigger aviary, but my other half won't hear of finding a new home for him. so that leaves us with two options - try to bond more with him, or find another bird. the latter of course comes with its own complications. whilst i would look for another male, ideally a tame rescue 2-3 years old and with quite a robust personality, of course i am nervous that they would not get on at all. but I have had silly tame birds in the past and I can't see that rocky will ever be like that and satisfied with us; I feel he will probably need another bird to be truly happy.

has anyone else been in this situation and what would you recommend? thank you!

I miss my beautiful boy...

Lovely Lemmy and lonely rocky
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Old 08-23-2016, 12:29 PM
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I'm sorry for your loss! I think you should keep Rocky and try to bond more with him. It would be too much for Rocky to lose you too since he already lost Lemmy. Good luck!
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Old 08-23-2016, 12:37 PM
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First, please accept my deepest condolences for your loss of beautiful Lemmy . It is a very sad time for both humans and bird friends.

Rocky's mourning is only natural behavior after losing a friend. Give him some time, as this unexpected change is very new to him. Birds are generally pretty resilient, and tend to move on or adjust to new circumstances fairly quickly.

If you still have desire to keep pet birds, then there is no reason Rocky can't stay in your home. You might find that after some weeks he will do just fine as a single guy. You can then better assess if he is receptive to you, and to some training, or if getting another is best. If you decide to get another bird, of course remember to always quarantine . Even if they aren't a good match, having 2 side by side cages will still provide some companionship to each other. All the best to you.
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I'm so sorry for your loss of your little Rocky! He is now with the angel flock, may he rest in peace. Fly high little guy. Hugs to you during this trial.

I agree with Julie in regards to getting another budgie.
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I'm very sorry for your loss of Lemmy.

I thought of you with love today, but that is nothing new.
I thought about you yesterday, and days before that too.
I think of you in silence. I often speak your name.
Now all I have is memories, and your picture in a frame.
Your memory is my keepsake, with which Iíll never part.
God has you in his keeping.
I have you in my heart.
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Fly high, soar free darling Lemmy; rest peacefully now, little one.

I do hope you will keep Rocky and give him the love and attention he so desperately needs right now.
Rocky has lost his best friend and he is definitely mourning. Sitting near his cage and talking, reading or singing to him will help him not feel so alone.
Please be sure to play music or leave the TV on for him during the day when you can't be with him.

Even if Rocky is never "tame" he can be a huge source of enjoyment simply by letting him be who he is and loving him just for being himself.
Each budgie has his/her own unique personality and even if you don't tame Rocky, you can get to know him better on his terms.

As Julie has said, you can decide in a few weeks if getting another budgie would be advisable to give Rocky company. And, if the two cannot be housed together, they can live in cages next to one another and enjoy the company of a same species friend in that manner.
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You have my deepest sympathies over your Lemmy's passing.
You have been given excellent advice and I agree that for now it would be best for you to give Rocky the time to mourn and adjust to this new reality.
You can use this time to try to make a connection with Rocky and to hopefully develop and bond with him.
As the weeks go by, you will be able to have a better idea on how to proceed and to reach a decision for your Rocky's overall happiness and welfare and if that means getting him a new male companion or not.

I'm sending my best wishes to you and Rocky in this very challenging time.

Rest in peace, little Lemmy.
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I'm so sorry for the loss of your beautiful little Lemmy

He was a beautiful boy and I can see he was much loved.

I agree with all the advice above. With time, Rocky's grief will fade and you will be able to better assess his personality and whether or not he would do better with a friend. Only time will tell.

Meanwhile, I wish you all the best and warmest thoughts during this time Rest in peace and fly high above the stars, Lemmy. You will never be forgotten.
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Thank you so much to everyone who has posted. We are really really sad, it's funny how these little birds take over our hearts!!

Rocky is doing well at singing and eating, but he looks rather lost. We are spending time with him and trying to get him to fly a bit more (as Lemmy couldn't fly, rocky tended to hang out on the floor with him), and will keep an eye out for a bird who needs a home in the next few weeks.
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