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Old 10-12-2016, 11:15 PM
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Hey guys, not my first post about this but I'm totally at a loss at this point..

I've had my budgie for about 6-7 months now. When we first got him, he was absolutely TERRIFIED of hands. Nothing else, just hands. I've talked to my mum who's had a lot of experience with birds and we've come to the conclusion he may have had something strange happen to him as a baby, possibly from the breeders or pet shop - he will accept anything getting close to him, absolutely anything, but your hands.

Now fast forward months later and he will very suspiciously eat food from your hands, if you're holding it almost a metre away. I know this is progress but seriously - I cannot clean his cage without him freaking the hell out, literally smashing into things to get away from the hands that are nowhere near him. I can't even cover him easily at night cause he does exactly the same thing. He literally shakes with fear when you even come into the room, if you're not at least a metre away. And forget about letting him out of the cage - we once did to see if he'd be more comfortable but it took us 4 hours to get him back in his cage.

I've tried every suggestion I possibly can to make him more comfortable with us, watched tutorials, tried the food thing, I have no mirrors, tried with perches, tried moving slowly around him and his cage, spending time with him as much as possible and absolutely nothing has worked to make him trust us and it's getting really upsetting, for him and us.

I love him to bits but I just feel awful keeping this bird in a house where he's absolutely terrified every day and it really breaks my heart. I know it's cruel to keep him here if he's just stressed to the max, thought about giving him to an aviary so he can be with other birds instead of people but I don't want to give him to anyone cause how do I know he's not going to be mistreated.. I'm not giving up on him but I just need to make him happy, not myself. I know all budgies are different but I just don't know what to do

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Old 10-12-2016, 11:40 PM
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I'm sorry your poor little budgie is so very afraid of hands.

When you sit near his cage and talk quietly and calmly to him, can you very slowly move your hand until it is resting on the outside of his cage?

If so, then sitting that way while talking, reading or singing to him for a period of 10-15 minutes three or four times a day would be a good way to begin to "desensitize" him so he isn't so afraid.
(If you've already tried this, I apologize for reiterating the method to you)

I would also suggest taking a look at this link if you have not already done so:
https://talkbudgies.com/taming-bondin...id-people.html
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Old 10-13-2016, 02:43 AM
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Deb has offered you great advise.
Are you committed to have only one bird and wanting him tame? If not then a same species friend might help him to feel happier. Especially as you would quarantine the new bird for the required days you could work on the bond with the new bird and over time, as the budgies are allowed to bond together, if you keep working with the second bird it might help to ease the others fear.
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Hi.. I can relate. I think I mentioned my rescue budgie, Rigby.. ?.. Well, like Therm says above, having a second bird with him has really helped. He's still afraid of me and hates the heck out of any hands, but...he seems to find some support from Oscar. He follows her out of the cage sometimes, but spends most of his time in their nice safe cage. He still is upset when I change the papers in his cage, or do anything in his cage, but doesn't 'freak out' as much now. I've had him less than a year, too.
I really have found that overall, patience is the key to all things budgie. I've also accepted that Rigby is not ever going to be really comfortable (you do wonder what has happened to them in their little lives, don't you?). So, another bird might help .. if that's a possibility for you. I know it's a difficult situation.
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Old 10-14-2016, 11:09 AM
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I do not have any brilliant solutions for you, but I do agree that another bird might help, if you can. I do want to add that sometimes we give up on a method too soon. It's hard to know when we need to just keep on doing what we are and when we need to conclude, "Ok, that's not working, I need to do something else."

Some people put the paper on top of the grate, some under it. If his cage has a pull out tray, using that will help with the scariness. Also, when a bird is scared, I put several layers of paper cut to the correct size in so that there's less rustling and bustling. While I generally consider hands going in and out of a cage for food and water a good thing--they get to see that the hands aren't hurting them and are actually bringing them good things--if a bird seems too terrified, I'll try to rearrange things so that my hands don't have to go to far into the cage. And for the covering, I've realize that some birds don't like to see the cover coming up and over their cage. Try leaving it on the back part of the cage so that there's less motion when you cover him.

Hugs to you for a difficult situation.
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Poor little darling, sounds like you really are doing you best, I hope some of the amazing advice above helps and the little one understands you just love him and won't ever hurt him xx
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Have you tried playing budgie sounds for him? Perhaps hearing other budgies will help him feel safer, I agree another Budgie friend may be the way to go. I hope he soon feels safe and happy with his human flock member. Please don't give up on him something definitely has terrified him poor baby.
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