Hey guys, not my first post about this but I'm totally at a loss at this point..
I've had my budgie for about 6-7 months now. When we first got him, he was absolutely TERRIFIED of hands. Nothing else, just hands. I've talked to my mum who's had a lot of experience with birds and we've come to the conclusion he may have had something strange happen to him as a baby, possibly from the breeders or pet shop - he will accept anything getting close to him, absolutely anything, but your hands.
Now fast forward months later and he will very suspiciously eat food from your hands, if you're holding it almost a metre away. I know this is progress but seriously - I cannot clean his cage without him freaking the hell out, literally smashing into things to get away from the hands that are nowhere near him. I can't even cover him easily at night cause he does exactly the same thing. He literally shakes with fear when you even come into the room, if you're not at least a metre away. And forget about letting him out of the cage - we once did to see if he'd be more comfortable but it took us 4 hours to get him back in his cage.
I've tried every suggestion I possibly can to make him more comfortable with us, watched tutorials, tried the food thing, I have no mirrors, tried with perches, tried moving slowly around him and his cage, spending time with him as much as possible and absolutely nothing has worked to make him trust us and it's getting really upsetting, for him and us.
I love him to bits but I just feel awful keeping this bird in a house where he's absolutely terrified every day and it really breaks my heart. I know it's cruel to keep him here if he's just stressed to the max, thought about giving him to an aviary so he can be with other birds instead of people but I don't want to give him to anyone cause how do I know he's not going to be mistreated.. I'm not giving up on him but I just need to make him happy, not myself. I know all budgies are different but I just don't know what to do