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Old 11-08-2016, 05:03 PM
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Hi, I'm completely new here. I bought a 5 week old budgie about 5 days ago. His progress was remarkable, he was fitting in nicely and was gettinf very comfortable with his surroundings and me. He even let me pet his belly, even though he started backing away. So I took it gently and slowly, making pauses and talking softly. At one point he started walking towards me; I thought that was a great thing. But he was trying to get away, he freaked out afterwards. Now he's stopped eating, preening and sleeping in my presence. This is my first time handling a budgie and this kind of mistake I was deathly afraid of. Have I messed up completely? Is there any way we can recover from this?

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Old 11-08-2016, 05:31 PM
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Welcome to the forums! You have certainly come to the right place as you will find all you need to know on budgie care here.
Since you are new to budgies, the information on the several articles and sticky threads will be extremely useful as you become more familiar with the species.

At 5 weeks old, your budgie is very fresh out of the nest and may not even be fully weaned, by this time your budgie should still be with the parents and siblings, at this age some chicks would even still sleep on the nest box.
It's quite worrisome that such young budgies are sold to people regardless on whether they have experience with the species or in raising chicks or not.
By being taken away from the parents and the familiar surroundings, your budgie has higher risks of regressing on the weaning process and this is quite serious.
At this point, making sure that your young budgie is eating well is the most important thing. The taming isn't a priority right now and can take second place.
If you notice that your budgie isn't eating and you are unable to hand feed him, then getting the little fellow back to the breeder/pet store and allowing the budgie to finish weaning would be the best option. In most cases, young budgies will be sold as soon as they reach 8 weeks old (two months of age).

To answer your question, you didn't make an irreversible mistake.
For all new budgies, it's best to let them take their time in settling in and to not rush through with training nor take a more hands on approach so soon.
It's best to help the budgie to acclimate to the new surroundings, this can be achieved by covering the cage on 3 sides (leaving front part uncovered) and having some music on.
During this time it's important to make the first connection with your budgie, to get him used to your presence and voice and to establish the foundations of trust.
This is done by sitting close to the cage and talking to your budgie in a calm, positive, encouraging and reassuring way. When your budgie shows signs of being receptive to you (by moving closer to you while in the cage), that's when you will take the next step in training, by slowly introducing your hand and offering him a little treat to eat.

For all the detailed information and tips on how form a long lasting bond with your budgie, be sure to check the Taming and Bonding section of Talk Budgies.

Best of luck with your little feathery friend!
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Thanks for answering. I can't tell you how relieved I am to know that I can fix this. He eats and drinks and preens perfectly fine, but only when he's unaware of my presence; for example, when I turned off the lights in my room and had the lighting from the street and my computer screen, I could see - and hear - what he was doing. I haven't tried hand-feeding him yet, I wanted to give him space and I feel I should definitely do that now.
I have also talked and spent countless hours with him so far. Like I said, the progress was incredible, I just messed up now... What should I do with him now?
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Old 11-08-2016, 05:56 PM
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Hi and welcome to Talk Budgies

Your little tyke just needs some time to settle in and
aluz has given you excellent advice.

Have you named your baby budgie yet?

At this time, cover the top and three sides of his cage to help him feel more secure and play some music for him.

Budgies perceive no noise as meaning there may be danger.

Taming and Bonding is all about helping your budgie learn to trust you and it takes a great deal of time and patience on your part.
You should never grab your budgie or force him to be touched.
To bond with your budgie, you need to build his trust in you.
He will have to learn over time that you will not hurt him, grab him and try to force him to allow you to hold him.

To build your budgieís trust, sit by his cage and read, talk or sing quietly to him for a period of at least 10-15 minutes, 3 or 4 times day. After the 2nd or 3rd day, rest your hand on the outside of the cage when you talk to him so he'll learn that your hand is safe and will not hurt him.

After a week, rest your hand inside the cage when you talk.
Donít make sudden moves, donít try to touch him.
Let his get used to the idea that the hand is now in his safe place and not harming him.

After 2 weeks, begin moving your hand slowly toward your budgie. If he becomes agitated, stop moving your hand and just hold very still until he calms down. When he's comfortable with your hand near him, you can offer him a bit of millet or a few seeds. In a few more days, you can begin your taming and bonding sessions.

Always work at your budgie's pace.
Move slowly and talk reassuringly and calmly to him whenever you interact with him.

Most budgies once they pass the "baby" stage, do not like to be petted or touched.
If your budgie does like to be petted, you should only ever pet his head, neck or chest area.
Stroking a budgie's back and/or tail stimulates its breeding instinct. Bonding means allowing them to choose to be with you.

Also, realize that he may start seeming more tame and then revert back to being skittish again. Don't feel badly if that occurs as it is actually quite normal. Be prepared to be patient and willing to do one step forward and two steps back for as long as it takes.

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I've actually read almost everything I could find about budgies, but I'm having a very specific situation with this one.
I've named him Kinich
He seems to be ok even when it's fairly quiet in the room. When I'm in it, whether there's noise or not, he does the same thing : he stands in one place, slightly floofed and blinking slowly. Even when I get close to the cage, he stays the same, only showing signs of fear when I open the cage to give him food, water, minerals etc.
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He's extremely young and he simply needs time to settle in.
I don't think it's anything to be concerned about.
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I know I should relax, but I've been freaking out over him a lot. I'm very afraid of raising him incorrectly to the point of having nightmares. More than anything I want to see him happy.
Thank you so much for your help. I'll just try to make more noise and give him some space.
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You'll be fine and he'll be fine.

Try not to be overly stressed. Remember that animals pick up on our emotions so it is important that you calm yourself and relax when you are around him.

Play some music you like and sit and read him some stories.
I'm sure it will help both of you.
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Hi there and to the forums!

I can't possibly add anything else to FaeryBee's stellar advice, but I agree that as long as you take a few steps back and let your little one settle in more, he will be just fine

If you have any questions after reading through everything, please be sure to ask as we'd love to help

Meanwhile, we'd love to meet him when you get a chance He sounds like a sweetheart!

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He seems more active now that there's more noise and I'm talking louder, but also a bit more freaked. I guess I've been too quiet before and he hasn't really heard my voice as much as I thought :/
I have a photo I took before the incident, I'd be more than happy to post it ^^
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