Talk Budgies Forums

Talk Budgies Forums (https://www.talkbudgies.com/forum.php)
-   General Budgie Talk (https://www.talkbudgies.com/5-general-budgie-talk/)
-   -   Rehoming is not an option.. (https://www.talkbudgies.com/general-budgie-talk/374618-rehoming-not-option.html)

Dare 11-16-2016 08:20 AM

Rehoming is not an option..
 
Bit of a rant I'm afraid..

I had a talk with mum this morning. I know she disagrees with rehoming so I wanted to bring her round to the idea that if things get worse with Buddy if might be best if we found an expert who could take him on.
She was having none of it.
She said a lot more than this but the basic, very clear and stubborn message was... No, it won't be happening. That's where she draws the line. Once you buy a pet they are yours for life, and you just have to manage things as best you can. If you can't give them the absolute best you just have to give as good as you can. This is her home and she is staying.

She doesn't get that I'm trying to put Buddy first, and do what's best for her... She feels like it's the absolute worst thing we could do.. I wish I could make her understand that I don't think I could bear seeing Bud stuck in a cage everyday (cos I'd only consider rehoming if it got to that stage), knowing that there may be someone out there that could handle her and have her out..
She doesn't get that the thing that should be an absolute no is having Buddy stuck in a cage never coming out..

aluz 11-16-2016 09:19 AM

I'm sorry to hear that.

Having the discernment to realize one's own limitations and to put the needs and overall happiness/welfare of a pet first is something that a person should not feel ashamed for.
In a last attempt, you could possibly show your mother the threads about your budgies.

If the decision is final, then you can continue to do your very best for both Buddy and Raffa. You can get Buddy a very large cage to better satisfy the need to fly/exercise and to continue the training by using positive reinforcement techniques to hopefully improve the bond and diminish the aggressiveness.

Best of luck with everything.

Dare 11-16-2016 09:32 AM

Thank you. It definitely sounded like a final decision. The cage he will have currently is about.. 1m H, 70cm W, and 50cm D. Is that big enough given he's pretty small and be the only one in there?

Abeyance 11-16-2016 09:37 AM

I'm really sorry about the tough decision you may have to make but your budgies happiness and health is the most important thing! A happy healthy budgie is the best budgie. I hope you do what's best for your beloved budgies :) I wish you luck


Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

Dare 11-16-2016 09:44 AM

Thank you. I think I just have to do the best I can because mum isn't going to change her mind on this and I simply cannot afford to fall out with her.

FaeryBee 11-16-2016 10:11 AM

You indicate the cage is 70 cm long (27.5") x 50 cm wide (19.6") wide x 1 meter high (39.4")

That cage is fine for a single budgie, if you plan to offer out of cage time.

If will will not be able to give her out of cage time, then I'd try to get the largest cage possible for Buddy to give her lots of room to fly and play in her cage. :)

Best wishes!

lbeckman 11-16-2016 10:24 AM

Dare, I have two offers for you. One is first-hand experience with the potential benefits of rehoming for a bird who isn't doing well in its current home (I work with a rescue); if you ever think it would be beneficial to put your mother in contact with, please feel free to do so.

The other is for you to start a training journal for Buddy and let the community here help you. While you said that you have tried positive reinforcement with him, the details of getting it to work are not always that easy or obvious, particularly if you haven't done something like clicker training before.

:hug:

Dare 11-16-2016 12:08 PM

1.5m with stand I should have said. But.. I'll have a look, however I don't think there are many on sale bigger than that in my country.

Leah - I will think about approaching mum on it again, so thank you for the offer. However I think I need to leave it a little while.

Abeyance 11-16-2016 12:14 PM

The best thing for your budgie if not able to be out of the cage is to get the biggest cage possible I know that seems hard but when it's the only way that your budgie may be able to get play time and flight time it's the only option or giving the budgie another home because they need to be able to exercise their muscles in their wings.


Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

Dare 11-16-2016 12:27 PM

Ok... This is the cage I have, only mine came with the stand. The only thing bigger I can find is an actual aviary, and we just don't have space for that.
Liberta Oregon Flight Bird Cage ? Next Day Delivery Liberta Oregon Flight Bird Cage
Bud is a very small Budgie too, and I don't fill the cage to the brim with toys and perches, I leave space for them to fly inside.


All times are GMT -4. The time now is 03:14 AM.

Powered by vBulletin®
Copyright © 2000- 2020, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.6.1
vBulletin Security provided by vBSecurity v2.2.2 (Pro) - vBulletin Mods & Addons Copyright © 2020 DragonByte Technologies Ltd.
Copyright © 2006 - , 2403 Networks LLC. All rights reserved.