Hi everyone, and thank you for coming to read my post!
(I need help!!)
About 6 months ago or so I got a second bird because my first bird was left alone for a more than 8 hours a day. I thought this would be a good idea to keep her company, and eventually have them both in the same cage if they were to form a bond.
The opposite kind of happened. The second bird, Lulu, didn't get comfortable with any of my taming techniques that I tried with my first bird, Bibi. Now she still fears me when I come closer to the cage. She is used to me, but don't think she really trusts me yet. Bibi on the other hand was tame after 2-3 months of taming. Maybe it's because I had more time to spare with Bibi than I did with Lulu.
Issue is now that: Lulu is not at her full comfort or happiness (she still shys away from me, doesn't talk much, or doesn't do much). I am very concerned for her. What should I do and how should I approach it?
Also, I have tried to introduce them both. When I first got Lulu, I was still living in a bachelor apartment (now living in a one bedroom) and so the two bird were right next to each other - I couldn't bring Lulu in a different room alone to train and tame her, like was suggested. I used to bring her into the bathroom to spend some alone time with her without my other bird so she would get used to me, but she didn't and I didn't want to scare her, so I stopped. And when I moved into my new apartment, I kept her in a different room to see if she could get used to me without being around Bibi, but I think she just got a bit depressed being so alone instead... So now they are both in the same room again, in the dining room. Both cages on each ends, but close enough to sort of chat and Bibi will often fly out to Lulu's cage once she's out (no, Lulu doesn't get out of her cage yet, I am so afraid she would never make it back because she seems so scared of me. Bibi will just hop on my shoulder or my hand whenever).
Sorry about the long message!
The last thing is that they're not really getting along as well as I'd hope. When I put Bibi in Lulu's cage so they can hang out, Bibi gets extremely defensive over what's in Lulu's cage, and it's not even her/his stuff!!! (No, I still don't know Bibi's sex. Although, it's certain Lulu is female).
Anyway, they don't seem to get along. Lulu doesn't like me. They both seem kind of sad now. Bibi is even losing her bond with me even if she's not even that close with Lulu. I am looking for any suggestions on taming, bonding, etc. It breaks my heart and at this point I am unsure what to try anymore... I feel so unmotivated... Feels like I can't help them.
Please help me. And my budgies.