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In Memory Tributes and Memorials to Budgies which have moved on to the Rainbow Bridge
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Old 08-08-2013, 12:35 PM
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I am beginning to come out of a mourning period for my baby bird a 2.5 yr. old budgie who was very bonded to me. It's been about 2 weeks since his sudden passing and I can now see how truly I loved him. I was in such grief that I was neglecting my other animals to an extent, not really interested just going through the motions of feeding etc...I found myself pulling away from them all. I'm beginning to connect with my new budgie who is young maybe 4 months but I'm taking it slowly with this guy...after baby bird died I was completely uninterested in the new bird and felt badly too that I did not want to bond with him.

I guess I'm beginning to find my way back to my living animals and engage them again the new bird is very timid...I hope he'll come around and be as close to me as my beloved baby but only time will tell...I know we can't make them into what we want, they are what they are.

I am truly astonished by how much grief I had over my bird dying, I've never mourned an animal that way before...

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Old 08-08-2013, 01:15 PM
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It's incredible the impact such a little fellow can have in our lives, I can see how special he was to you and that only makes it more difficult to go through.
I understand what you feel as I have also lost my most precious budgie of all back in January.
It takes time to heal and his place will never be filled as he was one of a kind, just like your sweet budgie.
I'm glad you are now opening your heart to your new budgie and I hope he will make the healing process easier for you.
I'm sure your baby bird would want you to move on and for you to pay more attention to your other animals. Baby bird's memory will always be alive through all the good times you had together and he will always be in your heart.
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Old 08-08-2013, 01:23 PM
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RIP to your baby bird I know how agonizingly painful it can be to lose a beloved pet... My terrier cross, Pixie died last November and I cried for months! We were unbelievably close, and I was with her when she was put to sleep. For a little while, I didn't have the same interest in my other dogs that I had had before. Their walks became limited, because our usual route through the forest reminded me of Pixie, and I hardly had the heart to play with them. Soon after Christmas though, I started to remember all the nice memories we'd had together, and I realized that I'd rather she was at peace than in pain. I'm once again extremely close with my other dogs, and I've also recently bought my first budgie, Boo. Greiving is a difficult process, and at times, you wonder if you'll ever get over it! Of course, we never forget our pets though, they're always there I hope the relationship between you and your new budgie is a strong as the one you had with the budgie you lost. You've obviously mourned so much because you loved him very strongly. Sorry for your loss, and good luck with your new budgie ~ Amber
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Old 08-08-2013, 01:31 PM
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I think it's very normal to feel this way. It's what mourning does to a person: the lost individual (and budgies are individuals) becomes the most important thing in your life. It's a temporary imbalance, and it'll get much better. Give yourself time to develop a new and unique bond with your new baby. He or she will help you through this. And who knows, maybe your bond with your new budgie will be even stronger because he/she helped you through such a difficult time.

I've lost many pets in my life, and every time it's painful. Every time I tend to neglect the others a bit. Until one day I wake up and notice how sweet they are, and they deserve better, and I try to do better for them. And it helps, and it helps distract me. The pain fades, the good memories start to come to the front more, and you start to be able to smile again.

Some pets, you'll keep feeling that gnawing pain in your chest and it won't go away. But you'll be able to love another creature like that again. You can't in the beginning, it's impossible. And that's normal.

It's okay to mourn.
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It's totally normal to feel like this. I've got through the same thing. Just a couple years ago, I had to have my dog (Emma) put to sleep (she was very sick). She was the sweetest little thing. My parents got her when I was two years old, so we grew up together, which made it hard to let go. I still get sad if I see a photo of her. I just try to remember the good times, which helps me cope with everything. I lost my first ever budgie (Tate) back in December. He was very sweet and passed away unexpectedly. It was a heartbreaking time for me. I'm sorry for rambling, I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone. Most of us have experienced a loss like this. We're here if you need us.
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You are all very kind, thank you for your supportive words and understanding hearts...it's unbelievable I've cried more over a budgie then I have over lost dogs and cats....he was that dear to me. I do hope to bond again with this new little bird she's quite young, very timid and it's going to take a long time and a lot of gentle persistence....You never know what life will hand you so if I get lemons then I suppose I am to make lemonade.

Today I made progress, got her to step up on a wooden chopstick! She actually perched on my shoulder for a bit which was unexpected...slowly we'll get there together where ever it is we are supposed to go.

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Yeah it's horrible losing a bird!!'
I have people who came to me with a
Ten year old boy
They had just lost a hand tame bird
So this batch of chicks I have hatching at
Present he is going to choose one
And I'm going to hand tame it for him
Or at least start the process for them
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It is perfectly normal to fee how you are, these tiny bundles of fluff and spindly legs are just an exceptional friend who trust us for all of their life giving needs. They don't question if you forget to give fresh seed, or change water or neglect to change the cage or clean . It breaks my heart that so many people still treat these birds like a commodity, oh get another one But here we all share the same ideal, fight for the rights and do our best to keep them how they deserve. Remember we choose to have them as friend not them choose us !!! Memories are golden and you will smile often with the lovely memories you both shared.
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