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In Memory Tributes and Memorials to Budgies which have moved on to the Rainbow Bridge
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Old 10-22-2013, 04:25 AM
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I have been struggling to not talk about this, pretending I can accept it. Today finally I am letting myself cry. I had a little budgie named Angel. I only had her a few months, but I got so attached to her really fast. She was very gentle and she sang like an angel, which is how she got her name. I never heard a parakeet sing like she did. It was constant, like she was in a state of joy. She was pale lavender, almost white, and very timid and gentle. I have a glass enclosed balcony and I used to let her fly free out there during the afternoon. She loved it and would sit on the open window sill and sing her little heart out. One day, she suddenly stopped. I went out to see what was wrong and to my horror, the strong winds had blown the outside door open. Somehow it was not securely locked, and she was gone. I called and called and put her cage outside, but she never returned. I could hear her singing for days, then finally nothing.

I think I have been trying so hard not to blame myself that I pretended I could handle it, even though grief and anger at myself would come but I pushed it away. But the shock has finally worn off and today I am just feeling wretched and so angry at myself. How could I have been so stupid and careless?

At first I vowed never to get another budgie, because I was so angry at myself. But 2 weeks ago I got a pair of young males. And they are beautiful, but they are not like her at all. They never sing, only squawk and make those angry noises. I am really confused right now about making what feels like a mistake by getting two new budgies, when all I wanted was to hear that beautiful singing again. They never sing and I just feel confused about why, and I miss my Angel. It was too soon, but I didn't know that until the last few days.

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Old 10-22-2013, 04:41 AM
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I'm so sorry to hear this... Try not to blame yourself, accidents happen and you thought the window was securely shut. Even though she is gone there is still a chance someone might have found her and given her a home.

I'm glad you opened your heart to 2 new little budgies, no budgie is alike, they all have different personalities and since you have the newcomers for such little time, I'm sure they are still adjusting and will open up to you more when they get more settled. And their singing will brighten your days as well.

I know how painful it is to lose such a sweet and beloved budgie and the hole you have in your heart left by her absence will soon be filled with all the wonderful memories you had with your Angel.

Wherever Angel is, whether she is in rainbow bridge or not she was much loved and will surely be missed.
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Old 10-22-2013, 04:43 AM
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Oh please don't blame yourself and be angry, anger is part of the grieving process in a situation like this. You mustn't let anger get in the way of your love and memories of her. Time will help it is also unfortunate that you rushed in and got two males but budgies all have different personalities like people. And having two together is completely different from having a lone bird.

Maybe if you feel that strongly that it was a mistake then you could try to rehome them or give them to a shelter that rehomes budgies. But I wouldn't rush into a decision they might just grow on you given a little time and love.
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Old 10-22-2013, 05:31 AM
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I'm so sorry to hear you lost your little angel. I hope in time your heart will heal but I know there's nothing anyone can do or say to fix it right now. There's been lots of stories on here about little budgies that landed in people's backyards needing a home. Maybe that's what happened with her too. Try putting up some lost signs? Call around the vets and animal shelters. Maybe someone would have spotted her. I know my brother found a little lost budgie when we were kids but we never found out who owned her and kept her.
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Please dont be angry. Instead focus on caring for the new ones. Angel would like to see u care for them instead of venting out your anger on them. Take care of urself. God bless angel wherever she is.

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Old 10-22-2013, 05:52 AM
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I'm very sorry to hear this accidents happen all the time, please try not to blame yourself. We hear stories of people finding lost budgies all the time on TB, maybe someone found her and is caring for her as we speak

As for rushing into to getting new budgies, I feel I did that to a certain extent. Last September we lost our Speedy, he was 8.5 and so tame and loving. Within 3 weeks we had our albino, Minty and 2 weeks later we brought Sparky home. I found it very difficult to take to the new budgies because I wanted Speedy - something I couldn't have.

Its a year on now and although Minty and Sparky couldn't ever replace Speedy, they have their own little personalities and behaviors, and we wouldn't be without them, they aren't tame and they don't like us much but they are happy budgies and they love each other

The hurt does get better, but it will take time
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Please don't blame yourself it was an accident... These things do happen... I am so sorry that she got out the door.. Maybe someone has found her have you thought about putting an add in the paper or online or in the local shops or go door knocking around your area... I no how you feel as the same thing happened to me with my very first Budgie called bluey... I had bluey out and i got mum to look after him in the lounge room and she wanted me to go and feed the magpies in the front yard i wasn't expecting bluey to follow me out the door i checked everywhere in the house he had gone out the door.. I was so mad and upset with myself i cried and cried for a hole day and night till the next morning i could hear my budgie i was trying to call him he was in the trees but he wouldn't come down.. then my next door told me that they have my budgie in the palm tree i grabbed the cage and went out into the front yard and bluey was there in the palm tree i called him down and when he came down i grabbed him and put him back in the cage and after that he had his wings cut... When i put Bluey back in the cage you no what he said he said you wanna get out and we said no you don't... We laughed.. So we got my budgie back since that day he never got out again.. I was only a teenager when i had Bluey.There is hope maybe someone will find her for you. I wanted to share my story with you.. But please take care of your other budgies you have a lot of love to give... Being angry doesn't help it only makes it worse... I no it is painful losing a beloved Budgie.. It is natural what you are feeling with the hole in your heart as you loved your budgie and cherished her... I am keeping my fingers crossed that someone finds Angel for you... I want you to do something for me please don't blame yourself or be angry it is not your fault... I did the same thing as you when my budgie got out.. So where my budgie spent the night i don't no but it was love that brought my budgie back to me... I hope your Budgie comes back to you... I will say a prayer and hope someone finds her for you... The pain does get better.... It is really hard to deal with when you lose a loved budgie i no when my budgie got out the door.. But as luck happened my beloved budgie came back to me.. Maybe this will happen for you to..
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Time will help it is also unfortunate that you rushed in and got two males but budgies all have different personalities like people. And having two together is completely different from having a lone bird.

Maybe if you feel that strongly that it was a mistake then you could try to rehome them or give them to a shelter that rehomes budgies. But I wouldn't rush into a decision they might just grow on you given a little time and love.
Hi pretty boy, thank you and everyone for your answers. It had been a month, and I just felt strongly that I wanted that little presence here. I didn't realize how hard it would be until after they were here for awhile. Right now I am considering letting one be rehomed. I am not sure there being two is why they don't sing, only fussing at each other. I have always heard that hens are silent, don't learn to talk and don't sing much. But Angel sang constantly. she made sounds i have never heard a parakeet make...beautiful warbling and ringing sounds. She was amazing. Is a lone male apt to be more of s singer than when there are two together? If I am going to rehome one, I feel I must do it soon because as each day goes by it will get harder to do. But I am looking at many years ahead, so I want to be sure the situation is right for me, and for them.
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Two budgies, especially males will sing a lot more than just one single bird.
It would be hard to teach them some words, because they will talk to each other more.
You have to really think it through, since they have been together they are probably bonding and leaning to each other for comfort. Taking that away may result in a rather depressed budgie. Take their personalities in consideration, if they are both on the shy side, then maybe it's best if they stick together.
You can still train them and make them trust you, but it will take some work.
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I am so sorry this happened. It was an unfortunate accident and it is obvious you would never have meant for this to happen.

I don't think it is a bad thing that you brought two new little ones into your home. And while you aren't getting the same lovely budgie song you had with your darling little Angel, remember that these two sweethearts are as unique as a snowflake, and they need your love too.

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