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In Memory Tributes and Memorials to Budgies which have moved on to the Rainbow Bridge

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Hi everyone,

I lost my 2 budgies today and just feel like writing something about my pretty traumatic day - this seemed as good a place as any to do so.

Sunny (green and gold) and Montel (blue, black and white) have been my best buddies for 6 and 5 years respectively - instant, unconditional love. Throughout these years I've been very - perhaps overly - cautious with them and even though I never signed up (just not really a forum guy) I must have checked this site countless times to check up on every little thing, so thank you to everyone here for all the advice I've picked up over the years.

My little friends loved being hung just outside the back door and singing out to the many other birds that frequent my area. Sadly this led to their undoing today, as the Queensland heat today reached a cruel 40 degrees (100 Fahrenheit ). I thought I'd head out to the shops for a while but forgot to bring them inside - I eventually realised this but missed my bus home and was forced to wait another hour.

By the time I got home they'd gone - they had cover and fresh cool water and food but the heat was just too much for them. The sight of my babies lifeless on the floor just ripped me in half. Normally I'm pretty strong when it comes to death and grief, but I'm having a really hard time with this - knowing how horrible their final moments must have been and how easily it could have been avoided but for a rare moment of absent-mindedness. I feel crushingly guilty and empty inside.

I've got a ton of great memories of the two and I'd be happy to share them a little later on but right now they're only making me more upset. The one thing I want to ask everybody just at the moment is whether getting some new birds as soon as possible helps with grieving or hinders it? I'm back and forth on this and part of me wants to go out and make some new friends in the next few days, but another part of me wants to never go through something like this again - any advice would mean a lot to me.

Thanks for reading,
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Old 01-04-2014, 09:22 AM
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So sorry to have to welcome you to the forum after you've experienced such a tragic event. I'm very sorry to hear about your loss.

Fly high and free Sunny and Motel; Rest peacefully little ones.

Hopefully your experience will be a reminder to other members to be ever vigilant of their pets and to never leave one's birds outdoors unsupervised.

Each individual grieves in his/her own way.
If you believe having a new budgie or two will help you focus your attention and take your mind off your loss then that is fine.

Perhaps you might find rescuing a couple of needy little ones from a local shelter to be rewarding as you'd be providing homes for some that might not ever get the loving care and attention they deserve otherwise.

Let us know what you decide to do.
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Old 01-04-2014, 09:31 AM
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I am so sorry to hear about this unfortunate accident. You mustn't be too harsh on yourself though. Things like that happen. Please consider opening your heart to another budgie or two again - you are a good owner.
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Oh god, what a shock...I'm so sorry this has happened. It's incredibly devastating what a moment's oblivion can do... I can't imagine what you must be feeling right now, but try not to blame yourself too much. It's clear you never meant for that to happen as you loved your budgies and gave them a few good happy years. It's never easy to lose a much beloved pet, you have my deepest sympathies.
Rest in peace, Sunny and Montel.

Since your pain is still very fresh, maybe you should hold off on getting a new friend. Let a couple of months pass by and give some time to heal your heart a bit and when you feel ready and strong, then get a new budgie(s).
I hope you will feel better soon, again I am very sorry for this tragic turn of events.
And despite the very sad circumstances, welcome to the forums.
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Thanks for the kind words everybody - very warmly appreciated.

I'll share a little more about my departed friends tomorrow.
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Oh no, I'm so very sorry. This is truly an unfortunate accident and is one of those times when I'm sure we wish we could turn back the clock. How devastating for you.

I know it can be very tough to think about getting new budgies so soon. I have been through this myself after a loss. For some people, I think it can help cope with the grief as it focuses your attention on something positive. This is not to say that you go out this very moment and bring new ones home or that you are "replacing" your lost ones of course. For others, having new ones seems to only serve as a reminder of our loss.

I might start out looking at budgies in pet shops, rescues, or from breeders, and see how that makes me feel. If all I feel is a deep sense of loss rather than a glimmer of pleasure (however small that glimmer may be), then it's probably too soon.... too raw.

I'm so sorry this happened to you and I sincerely wish I could help more. But please know that you have all kinds of support here, so if you need to talk or just drop in for a hug, we are here.

Fly high and free little ones.
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Rest in Peace, Sunny and Montel. Keep their cute faces and happy songs close to your heart, and they will be with you forever. I am so sorry for your loss. When you are ready, I hope you find other budgies to share your love. Sunny and Montel would like that.
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I am very sorry to hear what happened but you must not blame yourself for it, it was an accident with grave consequences but nothing you did on purpose and was certainly not your fault no matter how much it sometimes seems like it is; noone can ever see these things coming. You must know that you made their lives as enjoyable as they made yours and you said about the way they went.. with all the possible ways to go this could even have been better
As getting more goes, it really depends. Don't just go rushing out an grab the first one you see although sometimes it just ends up that way; My first rabbit i got when i was about 4 years of age and he stayed with me until he was about 12 and he meant everything to me. But strangely I was not sad when he went because we both knew it was time for him to go. I cleaned out his cage and had previously been wondering if i would ever get another rabbit, that night i went to a far away pet shop just to look at them and found a lazy bunny i knew my Thumper would be happy with me taking home and so on the 18th April I lost one friend and gained another.
The same as when you usually get new animals you often go for the one that just "connects" straight away, and sometimes that takes time, sometimes not. But don't feel bad if you do, these guys are not just "replacements" more of new friends to help you through the old one's unfortunate passing.. Sorry if none of what i just said makes any sense.
We're here for you through your loss and i hope you'll be happy with whatever decision you make
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Oh wow, I am so sorry this happened. Unfortunately we humans can't be perfect, we make mistakes so please don't be so hard on yourself, I am sure you are feeling bad enough from losing them.

I think it might be a good idea to get a new bird or two. When I lost my beloved Comet, nothing helped me get through it more than focusing my love on the remaining flock.

We'd all love to see and hear more about these two, when/if you feel like sharing.
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As the other friends here said, this was an unfortunate event, it was not your intention for this to happen and don't be so hard on yourself. These are accidents and happen.. the only thing we have to do is be more careful. If you leave the house, keep the budgies inside no matter what.
I personally never leave my budgies unsupervised on my balcony, because in my area there are hawks and owls flying around.
I am very sorry for your losses. Time definately will heal most of your pain. I'd say wait until you purchase a new one.
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