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In Memory Tributes and Memorials to Budgies which have moved on to the Rainbow Bridge

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My daughter got a budgie two months ago and it was the first bird that we've owned.
We chose not to clip the bird's wings and let him fly around the house and hang out with us. Our cat and bird were co-existing peacefully together.
4 days ago, the bird was feeling particularly energetic and was flying around in everyone's face including the cat's, who was trying to nap on the back of the couch. I had gone in the other room with the bird flying around and then I heard squawking and saw the bird fly onto the lamp. I didn't realize until a few minutes later that his wing must have been hurt. No blood, but he was holding it funny.
I did some research (not enough) and decided to keep him in his cage and let him rest. I didn't think his wing was broken because he was able to stretch it out.
We hand fed him intermittently but didn't realize that he probably wasn't eating at all.
Yesterday morning, my daughter found him dead on the floor of his cage just 15 minutes after she had been talking to him.
I adore birds and had told my daughter when we got him that if she didn't take good care of him, he would become my bird and that I was his "ultimate protector". Well, I failed him and basically just let him die. I didn't think he was that hurt, and that he just needed to rest and heal, but in hindsight, I'm really mad at myself for having not researched more before hand and learned that he needed to be handfed a lot because of his fast metabolism, and given him extra heat, or learned that his puffed up feathers meant that he really wasn't alright. Even though I think my cat only batted him away because he was getting annoyed, I shouldn't have trusted them alone together.
He was a good bird and should have lived a long life. I failed my little birdie buddy and now he's dead and I feel like ****.

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Old 07-27-2014, 03:28 AM
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I'm very sorry you had this happen... Unfortunately you have learnt the hard way to never let out your budgie in the same room you have your cat in. It doesn't matter if the cat has never hurt a fly in his life, they are animals and have natural instincts and things can go very wrong in just a split second.
I have a dog and even though he is a sweetheart I would never trust him to be around when I have my pet birds loose in their room (I always check if door and windows are closed before letting them out) and I supervise their playtime outside too.

Try not to feel too bad, accidents do happen and now you know better. I hope with time you will be able to open your heart to a new little budgie and give him/her all the love and best care I'm sure you will be able to provide.

Rest in peace, Buddy. You were much loved and will be missed.
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Old 07-27-2014, 04:17 AM
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I'm really sorry for how you are feeling and the outcome of little Buddy. Unfortunately, other mammals (even humans!) carry things in their saliva that are toxic to parakeets, which is why the smallest little nip - especially with cat claws, which are another barrel of toxins - can give the bird an infection.

I also have a very well-trained schnauzer, and I used to let him and my budgie hang out together until the dog accidentally stepped on Sammy one day. Now, I don't let the dog in the room if the bird is out of his cage. It's just not worth a small accident, and I had to own up to the fact that, even though my dog is very obedient, his breed was bred to hunt small animals and vermin (like budgies!). We can't get around instincts, as aluz said.

We learn more with each pet that we own, especially how to love that pet. I know that you and your daughter love Buddy a lot, and that will get you through your guilt and sorrow.

In time, perhaps you will be able to open your heart and home up to another budgie and he or she will bring lots more happy memories!
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I am sorry to read of your poor budgies untimely death. Yes it was a mistake to let a cat and a bird be in the same room together , I hope in the future you can feel it in your heart to help a little bird once more.
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Hi CarolRose
I'm sorry to hear about your little bird, I can imagine that you and your daughter are very upset about the incident, all I can say is that you are very welcome on this forum, please spend time reading all the posts and take advice from the experts on here, all the members are friendly and experienced, and hopefully when you feel the time is right you will get another bird, but please learn from this site first I'd hate you to go through this feeling of guilt again.
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You obviously feel really bad for what happened and have learnt from it - we all make mistakes. We live and learn hey?

Like the others I also hope a bird is lucky enough to have you as an owner and you don't let your guilt make you feel like you don't deserve to have another one in your life. It sounds like you love birds.

I'm sorry for your loss and the way it happened.
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Sorry to hear about what happened to your little birdie. I think, as owners, we all have done something that we regret. I know you and your daughter are upset and sad, but please consider opening your home to another bird. I know he/she will be loved and taken care of.
This was an unfortunate accident. Now you are more aware of the cat/bird danger, so things will be better.

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Dee is right, we've all done at least one thing wrong with our birds that we regret, you've made a mistake and sadly paid the ultimate price, but you've learnt your lesson. I'm sure your little keet had an enjoyable life whilst he was with you!
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Thank you, everyone. I'm still really sad, but I appreciate the kind words and encouragement. I think we might get another budgie, probably for my youngest daughters birthday in January. In the meantime, I've been reading all I can about them so that Admiral will not have died in vain and our next little friend can live a long, fruitful life.
What's funny is that I've shed more tears over this little bird in the last three days than for all three if my grandparents. And I'm a happy person!
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Hi CarolRose
Even though you're not planning on getting a new budgie until your daughters birthday in january please stick around, not only can you learn alot from the site (as I have done) we have enjoyed having you in the "family"
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