I would like to know if any of your beloved bugies have passed away and how do you cope with the loss?
Two weeks ago I was invited to my friends house, I was so proud of my baby that I decided to bring her with me in her cage. It was a 2 hours trip. My beloved parakeet whose name is "Novi" got dizzy. When I arrived to my friends house I introduce Novi to my friend's family. She inmediately flew to the top of my cage.
As Novi was bright and strong, I decide to leave her on the top of her cage. I was climbing the stair of the house to go to the second floor when I encounterd on it. I almost felt and almost drop the cage. I got scared and the tragedy happened. Novi was on the floor with blood. I grabbed a taxi and looked for a veterinary.
Two of them were closed and when I finally reach to one, there was nothing more I could do. She was dead and my heart was broken. I cant recover from her death. I'm depressed and I can't not stop crying. I can't forget the incident.
She is, she was and she will always be my baby. Many friends have told me to just get a new one, but Novi was not an object I can replace. I used to sing, play, run, jumped and she loved to be in my head playing with my hair. Everybody loved her, she was hand tamed.
I have tried everything to feel better, I buried her under a beautiful plant, I make mirror keychains with her photograph and pins. I have bought her more birds toys and plush toys. I have played her favorite songs. I have talk with people who met Novi. I have talk about her with a therapist but nothing seems to make me feel better. I have a big hole in my heart.I
can't get rid of the guilt of her death because she was my responsibility. I was her Mom. Somehow I think you guys might be able to understand my pain because you love budgies as much as I do.
I'm lost and I'm clueless about how to keep on with my life. I miss her so much
You have my deepest sympathies over the loss of your precious Novi.
Having had budgies for 27 years, I have inevitably experienced the deep pain when one of my little friends time on earth has come to an end.
It's never easy to cope with a loss, but time will heal the hole left in your heart by your Novi's departure. She took a piece of your heart with her and you have kept a piece of her heart in yours and one day your souls will meet again.
While it is painful to part with a beloved pet, the time we had with our little friend will always be something to be cherished and remembered, what we have learned with them and all the happy memories will forever be with us and give us comfort.
Each pet is unique and irreplaceable and I know you miss your Novi a lot and are overwhelmed with grief and while it's hard to cope with the pain, remember your budgie loves you very much and wouldn't want to see you so sad and in pain, she'd want you to be strong, to start healing and feel better.
I am also currently in the process of healing from the recent loss (August 18th 2015) of my loyal friend of 12 years, my dog. I had a very rough few weeks where my health was beginning to take a toll on me, then I decided for the sake of my family members who need me and on my current flock of 14 birds of whom I'm the primary caregiver, to build my strength up, shake off the negativity and deep sadness the best way I can, to come to terms with the new reality and carry on with life.
I'm wishing you all the best and hope you will soon be on the healing path. When you feel that you are stronger and have healed enough, you may even consider getting another little budgie friend to brighten your days once more.
This will also be a good way to honour your Novi.
Rest in peace, little Novi. You were much loved and will be missed.
RIP sweet Tito (Summer 2008 - January 17th 2013).
You are missed and never will be forgotten.
There's a very big difference when dealing with a natural bird death in it's old age and a shocking and tragic one like you have experienced.
Firstly, stop blaming yourself.
You loved Novi. You did nothing that endangered your bird. There were just a tragic incident that happened and you lost your baby.
Everyone deals with grief differently.
People who tell you to get a new pet are possibly reacting to the loss the way they would if it were their loss, so you have to do what feels right for you.
A new pet would never be a replacement for Novi, but a chance to give a new bird friend a chance of a happy life with you.
I think when *you* are ready, a new friend would be good for you.
It wouldn't be the same and should never be thought of as a replacement, just a new friend for you to care for.
Do things that make you happy.
Try not to think about Novi and that one tragic moment, but the happiness you shared.
Try to find a creative way to express your emotions- writing, drawing, painting- even if you don't think you're good at any of them, if it helps *you* keep trying and it will lessen the pain in time. *hugs*
Welcome to talk budgies, I am sorry that it is tragedy and loss that bring's you here. Most of us here have dealt with the loss of much loved pet's in our time, so you are among friend's who know what your going through. I too would say that you need to try and let go of the guilt your feeling, it was an accident....
He came down from Heaven unto this earth below
He came down from glory and praises untold
He came down to man fashioned in their way
He came down to rescue, He came down to save
Despite the grief, welcome to the forums. We're here for you to talk to and share stories about your beautiful little Novi.
I'm so sorry to hear about her passing. I can see how much she meant to you and it's clear she lived the best life with you as her mum, which she knew and still knows to this very moment.
It wasn't your fault, accidents happen, and she wouldn't want you to feel guilty. Someday you will see her again
Fly high over the Rainbow Bridge, Novi. Sleep well.
and Princess Mallorn!
Thank you to Deb for her wonderful Faery magic
I'm so sorry, i really feel for you and cried reading this.
Tragic but an accident, your Novi knew you loved her very much, i can understand how much grief and guilt you must be feeling and how nothing will make it feel really better right now.
But please take as much time as you need to heal and do what helps or comforts a lil, and really it wasnt your fault, we do not know that these things would happen.
Im so sorry for your loss.
Novi loves you and you were a great mom.
My deepest sympathies and prayers to you during this difficult time.
I'm sorry to be welcoming you under such sad circumstances but glad to have you here on TB.
The pain of losing a pet is very real and is only aggravated more but unsympathetic comments from some non pet owners. I'm sorry for your loss and I know you did everything you could to save Novi. The tragedy was an accident and Novi would not want you to be blaming yourself - you loved her and she knew that.
We are all here for you.
Despite these circumstances, welcome to TB forum- enjoy your stay!
In these 10 years I am budgie owner, I lost several budgies... George, Lino, Peter, Phillip and some of them escaped their cages. I was very sad when I lost them, I can share your pain. After some time I decided to bring new budgies in my home, not to replace the previous ones, but to give them a chance to live in a home, to have everything they need and feel happy. My oldest budgie now is Lina, she is one of my first ones and she is my best friend.
Accidents happen and please don't blame yourself. Until then she was happy in your home. And then you tried to find the doctor for her. Give yourself time to heal and do things that make you happy. When you're ready, you can get a new budgie to live with you. We are with you at this.
Rest in peace, Novi..