My sweet boy just passed away this morning after several panic calls to numerous vets who just wouldn't help me today. I found some Avian vets luckily who are not far away but they wouldn't take him in today and by the time I found them, it was already too late. I am in absolute shock and grief. I feel terrible and guilty. I tried everything I could to help him live and he was doing so well and then went downhill so fast and then within about an hour of watching him wither away, he was gone. I did everything I could to make him feel comfortable and I hope that he was. I had only had him for about a month, I feel like a terrible owner to him even though what happened was solely an accident I can't help but feel terrible for not being able to find him help soon enough. Within this last year this has been my second loss, after my 16 year old Cockatiel, Junior. I was hoping getting these babies would help me move on from his passing. I'm just in shock.
He was such a lovable and beautiful boy, he was so talented and could climb anything, it was so wonderful to watch. He had such character and personality and was just truly a sweetheart and incredibly smart as well, I could feel our bond would have been so strong had I had him longer. I had him only a month, yet I feel so much pain as if he's been here for much longer. I don't think his mate realizes what happened yet, and I am quite reluctant about putting him back in an empty cage. I know he is going to take it just as harshly as I am right now when he realizes Nio isn't around anymore. I'm not quite sure what do to with Ivy, I am planning on getting him a checkup with the vet here in a few days. How can I help him cope with the grief? Should I get him another mate, and if so, how soon? I definitely need to be emotionally ready to take on a new member before I consider it, and I know he likely does too. It took me over a year after my cockatiel passed away to move on and bring more birds into my life but I know it likely would not be healthy to leave him solo that long.
Forever always loved and missed, sweet Nio. I'm sorry life was so short and that you had to go in this way.. I hope you are happy and in peace now and never have to feel any pain ever again. Thank you to everyone here who helped me the best they could as well. https://imgur.com/npU666B
I believe considering the circumstances surrounding Nio's injury, it's best not to rush out and get another bird.
Ivy may be perfectly fine as a solo bird. You didn't have Nio long (I assume you got the two at the same time) and the bond between them might not have been so strong to cause her such upset.
I have had birds pass and they all react differently.
So Ivy is not the sole reason to get another bird.
Besides from that, there's an issue with safety that you need to address in your home between your birds and your dog. I'm not wanting to make this more painful, but you have to address that issue before you even think about another bird. That you still have a bird in the house means it needs to be dealt with.
I would also find look to find an avian vet that is close to you that is reliable. That none of the vets near you would see a bird in an emergency situation is worrying and you need to find which one you can go to in case Ivy ever needs help.
You can help Ivy's adjustment by spending more time sitting with her and talking to her etc. This will be helpful to her. also if you have to go out, leave some music or the TV on.
I thought of you with love today, but that is nothing new.
I thought about you yesterday, and days before that too.
I think of you in silence. I often speak your name.
Now all I have is memories, and your picture in a frame.
Your memory is my keepsake, with which I’ll never part.
God has you in his keeping.
I have you in my heart.
Fly high and soar free darling Nio; rest peacefully now wee man.
It is important you give Ivy time to adjust and see if he can be happy being a solo budgie.
Many budgies that are solo do just fine as long as they are getting plenty of interaction and attention.
So it is absolutely fine if Ivy stays solo? I have been worrying so much about her health if left solo because I am always told they need to be in pairs. She's back in her cage now and has seemed quiet, where she is usually very noisy and active and she did play with and sing with Nio quite often, she would not willingly come out of the cage or come to me unless Nio did, he was like a leader to her and was always encouraging her to do things. I am certainly not emotionally prepared for another parakeet anytime soon which is why it's relieving to me to hear she may be fine if left solo. I just want her to be healthy and happy. I'm around for much of the day except for week days, where I have to go to my classes but I am usually home by three at the latest.
I have addressed the issue pretty well. I have examined the cage and made sure there is no place where Ivy can escape, I'm using clothes pins to keep all cage doors shut because I believe Nio probably got out through the cage door. My dog's gate is secured and she is kept in the other half of the house and outside, but I know that sometimes the gate is left loosened or opened so I'm going to make for certain that Ivy can't escape when I'm gone to be extra safe. My dog did so great with my cockatiel and so I perhaps let my guard down way too much which lead to me being less cautious, which is my mistake.
I'm definitely still looking for vets, I haven't had luck with finding one that will do emergency services but I am still looking. Ivy is going Tuesday hopefully.
I'm going to do all I can for her. I really want her to be OK. I still feel so terrible it is overwhelming.
You will have to be the judge of how Ivy copes, but you have to allow time for her to adjust. On the days when you aren't home, leave some music on for her. She will be quiet if you just sit with her in silence. The more noise there is, the more likely she'll be to chirp and act like normal. Silence means danger for a budgie so it's best not to leave her in that situation.
I'm slightly confused as to why none of the vets do an emergency service as this would be standard practice for all vets that I've ever known. Often times if you have an appointment and an emergency case was brought in, that would take priority over the appointments which is why vets are sometimes running behind. It's not really in their nature to turn away pets in distress. Even a regular vet should offer to see a bird if they could no nothing for it over then put it out of its distress, I'm sure they would still allow you to take it there.
if you have avian vets nearby, I'm even more confused why they don't take emergency appointments.
I understand. I would never leave her in silence and I have actually been playing music and videos for her now, I have been talking to her for awhile. I always have the fan on a low setting facing away from the cage so that there's always a little bit of noise. I try to avoid loud noises though.
I was confused about that too. I figured most if not all of them would have emergency services. I even called the emergency pet number and they didn't help me much. Maybe I just wasn't clear enough with them and didn't make it apparent enough that it was a very serious situation.. Or maybe everyone was having an emergency at the time, I don't know. It being a holiday weekend didn't help. One of my local vets whom I called again actually was willing to try to see if he could help but it was already too late at that point. I did not get a chance to actually talk to the two avian vets I found yet. I am pretty sure they are proper avian/exotic vets, though... so at least I have that. I suppose I will find out soon when I get Ivy checked and her leg band removed (she keeps gnawing at it so I think it's irritating her)
I think it'll be great if you talk to the avian vet when you take Ivy and reassure yourself than in case of an emergency you can and will be seen by them. It will put your mind at ease knowing you have a place to go and can get the help you need.
Hopefully, Ivy will be more herself in a couple of days.