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In Memory Tributes and Memorials to Budgies which have moved on to the Rainbow Bridge

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Old 10-26-2010, 08:40 AM
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When I was a teen I had a pet budgie that flew out if its cage and out the door while my mother was cleaning the cage while I was at School...I was devastated...I had gotten to the point where I could hear my budgie chirping in the mornings before heading on the bus..this made me sad and happy at the same time to know he was ok..but not in its cage .to my disbelief i saw him in a tree one day so i decided to climb it to get him back ..it was really high..i did make it up to him but I was afraid of what i would do to him on the way down..i needed both hands to get down and that would mean to put him in a pocket or something which at the time wasn't an option as this would have squshed him...so at that point I decided I had to leave him....that made it even worst to know how close I had gotten to him ...he was light blue.When i couldn't hear him anymore in the mornings my heart sank miss you gizmo) so that was the story of my budgie experience as a teenager.
Now that I am all grown up ..I was given my brother's 3 birds as he wasn't able to put the time and effort into taking care of them(busy squedule) so here I was with 3 budgies 2 females and 1 male. the male was light blue just like my pet as a teen and out of the 3 the only was that was tame..I got really close to him as he reminded me so much of my pet long ago.
well to make a long story short...my male and 1 of the females decided to breed and they had 6 eggs...the father was doing what he was supposed to..feeding the mom while she was in the nest and grooming her and so on...I thought it was so exciting and amazing to see how bonded they were together...well a few days before the first chick hatched I had to bring my daughter to her bus stop(well we all know as moms how preoccupied our brains are when we are sending our kiddos to school) she noticed our cat coming in and she warned me about the birds..well i usually have the cage door open for my aqua(male) to come out whenever he pleases as he does this every morning...when my brother had the birds they were on the floor with his cats all day so i thought since my cat was calm and such that everything would be allright...my husband was home at the time and i would only be gone 5 minutes so i assumed that during that time everything would be fine until i got back..i didnt even expect the bird to come out while the cat was inside...well i got a text on my phone 2 minutes later yup only 2 minutes saying that my bird was dead...what an awful text..i wasn't even at the bus stop yet so i called him and asked what was going on and he told me our cat got him...of course denial i didnt want to believe it...i thought maybe he was pulling my leg and saying such a nasty thing to prove me a point to not leave the cage door open while the cat was inside and that when i'd get back he'd still be in its cage...well i was wrong when i got home i looked and said where is he and he said in the garbage....i was shocked i took him out and looked carefully just to make sure and yes he had passed..i started to cry as i felt this was my fault..i should have closed the cage door i should have booted the cat out..the worst is to know my daughter warned me about her getting in...and then to know that daddy wouldn't get to see his chicks thrive or to help mom and then for mom to wonder why daddy isn't coming back...all of this keeps coming back to me and i feel so guilty..i gave him a proper burial outside....i am so sorry about this huge long whining but no one here understands what i am going through and i thought since this is a site full of bugie owners and lovers that you all would understand...
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Old 10-26-2010, 08:48 AM
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I am so very sorry to ehar of your loss.
SOmetimes we get caught up in life, and think
it wont happen to us. But it can, and it will. You can
never be to safe I have learned, so take those extra few minutes,
even if it ment your child would miss the bus, and keep your pets safe.
Its instinct for the kitty to get the bird sadly. I hope your ok.
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Old 10-26-2010, 09:01 AM
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yes indeed..i have learned from my mistake to be more aware and to keep my pets safe...I no longer have the cat i mentioned...my birds are precious to me and I will be sure they are safe! i am doing better now that the chicks are here..they are kinda filling an empty space.
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Old 10-26-2010, 02:55 PM
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Hi Rachel, welcome to TB
We totally understand - losing a budgie really hurts and the guilt factor is one of the worst parts.
But we live and learn, right? Your new babies will be much safer and healthier because of the things that you've dealt with in the past
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Aw this is so sad
When I was younger I had this white female budgie...she was the first budgie I had ever had and I fell in love with her! She was outside in her cage getting some sun, when my little cousin (probably only about 4 at the time.) opened her door to get a better look at her...and of course she came out and flew away. My dad climbed our big tree to get her-and just missed her I was very upset-we heard her for a while and then we just didn't.
To make it worse, many years later we had a large cage with about 7-10 budgies in it-we had this white bird and she was pregnant, I was going to tame her baby and was very excited about it all...but my dad didn't latch the door properly in his haste-he noticed, but didn't think it would matter-but it did because the storm came and the wind was very strong and it threw the door open. We only had 2 budgies left, two old males...the white budgie was gone...we heard and saw them all for a little while but then they were all gone. I was so angry at him at the time...but then I realised we all make mistakes and it was the last thing he wanted to happen...and as sad as it was-we got more budgies and got over it in time.
I know it must be hard because of the circumstances, but try not to beat yourself up over it...I'm sure you will be more careful in the future and fall in love with another budgie soon enough-at least his babies are still okay
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Old 10-27-2010, 07:36 AM
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thank you all for the kind words...and yeah having some of his babies still here makes me feel so much better I'm not an expierenced breeder..it just kinda happenned...i read up on the net about alot of things but had i known more probably would have had a healthy clutch...she laid 6 in all but 4 of them never made it past the first week and i guessed it could be that the daddy was gone whereas he is supposed to help mommy alot with the feeding...could be other factors i don't know but the oldest 2 chicks are thriving..they are so cute...they are now 3 weeks old and doing great!

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Old 10-27-2010, 01:34 PM
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I am so sorry. Its the ONE reason why there are NO cats in my house.
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I am sorry for your loss. At least the chicks are safe.
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thank you ...the chicks are safe and doing well...momma is doing a great job
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Hi Rachel, what a sad thing to have to go through. You must never blame yourself - accidents do happen and all too often. I'm sorry you had to join us under these circumstances, but a big welcome to you and your flock.

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