I got my new budgie a week ago, and it's been bad ever since...
So I got this new budgie a week or two ago, and named it Pan. Ever since the first day, obviously, it's been extremely scared of me and my family... Now, I understand, I've had cockatiels before and know how tough it is to raise a bird... I wouldn't have gotten the budgie if I didn't think I could raise it right, but it's not getting any better... I've been making very slow movements, brushing my hand on the cage to get it used to my hand and relieve some anxiety. The only other time I go near Pan is when I'm changing the food and water bowl, I speak very softly, and try my best to be as slow and calm as possible, but obviously, the budgie still freaks out and ends up flying all over the cage... Now after this, I'll calm it down again by talking to it and being nice and calm, but today... Something crazy happened... It flew right out of the cage! Luckily it's wings are clipped, so it wasn't hard to just throw a towel over it's head. I picked it up and let its head peak out, now it was making alarmed noises, threatening me, but I had to calm it down somehow, so I just pet it. It eventually calmed down, but the whole thing was just... An ordeal.
Also, is Pan a boy or girl? They couldn't tell us at the pet shop.
Yes, I know it's cage is a little messy, I'm cleaning it today, don't worry. I literally cleaned it last week, I don't know how it's so dirty again.
Did I do the right thing in this situation? Or should I have done something different? If you have any tips for bonding other than reading or eating next to it, which I already do, I would love to hear them. Tell me what I should do next, or what I should've done better. Thank you, I appreciate it.
Last edited by shadicx; 06-21-2018 at 05:30 PM.
Reason: Adding pictures
Not quite sure sex, due to the lighting but if the cere is a very pale blue it's a young female, but if you're seeing more purple/pink cere, Pan would be a male. Make sure lighting is natural daylight for taking photos.
Quickly I'll stay just back way off on anything other than sitting quietly talking, or reading and nothing where you'll be touching him/her. Check out the stickies on this site about taming. Pan needs more time to settle in (which is part of the taming process).
Right now your budgie views you more as a gigantic predator that is somewhat unpredictable. Give Pan time to settle in. A beautiful color mutation.
Last edited by philw; 06-21-2018 at 11:06 PM.
Reason: typo & adding work
Are the pics in natural light? They aren’t the best pics for accurately seeing cere color, but Pan looks like a young female.
As you know, birds are prey animals. Remember that with your pet budgie too! It will take some time for Pan to adjust to the new surroundings, new cage, new routine, new everything. It might he provide a sense of security to cover the cage on one end or a couple sides. Minimal staring and not trying to tame yet, is best at this point. Give your budgie around two weeks to settle into the new environment and routine, then after that, you can judge by body language if setting your hand in the cage is accepted or not. If not, more time is needed. Usually, progress with a wild animal happens in small increments at a time. It teaches patience . Always go at the budgie’s pace.
We have a huge resource here for you to learn everything you need to know about budgies. We ask that you take a little time to read through the Stickies posts and Articles. You’ll see answers to some common questions as well. If you can’t find the answer after searching, we’re here to help!
Pan looks like a beautiful little girl. You've been given great advice. It's important to let her settle in and not to try to touch or tame her for the first few weeks. When in doubt, take a step back. Building a strong foundation is key to lasting trust!
Meanwhile, be sure to read through the forums' many budgie articles and "stickies" (threads "stuck" to the top of each subforum for easy reference) to ensure you're up to date on the very best of budgie care practices. If you have any questions after reading through everything, be sure to ask as we'd love to help!
Hope to see you and Pan around here!
and Princess Mallorn!
Thank you to Deb for her wonderful Faery magic
Thank you all for helping me out, I really appreciate it, the answers weren't really what I wanted to hear... But they were what I needed to hear. I'll make sure to back off, I won't get close, and I'll let Pan settle in. I'll only enter her cage to change her food and water... Now, is it a problem that Pan is in my room? I constantly spend time in my room, and she's currently positioned in the far end of the room, a couple steps from where I usually sit. Is this okay? I don't have another room to put her in, but this was brought to my attention the other day that it might not be a good idea to put her in the same room that I stay in. Any body know if this is ok?
It's perfectly fine that Pan is in your room. The best place for her is the place where you spend the majority of your time. Talk to her every time you are in the room and get her used to your voice and your presence (without trying to handle her yet). If possible, when she's alone, leave the radio or TV on for her so the room isn't in complete silence.