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Taming and Bonding Taming and Bonding is all about helping your budgie learn to TRUST you. This requires time and patience and does not happen overnight.

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Old 08-22-2016, 03:35 PM
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I have started taming this budgie about 2 months ago, with a pseudo-routine that was more sporadic than routine-y. About a month ago I had a week of "intensive" taming (reading everyday at the same hour, with my hand near the cage, the last day even inside the cage).

Fast forward to 14 August (I was unable to be with the budgie meanwhile, and when I could, couldn't do a proper session, I just chirped to him).

Well, since about 14 August I have been everyday with the lad, talked to him through the day occasionally (chirping or regular talk) and he doesn't seem to mind. In fact, sometimes, when I have my face near the bars of the cage and chirp softly, he comes more near me. He even, rarely, has the courage to nibble the bars of the cage, like he wants to kiss me or something.

This is it. I have tried very slowly. This was what I did (chronological order, like, first days I did 1., next days I did 2, etc. Every method is while I talk, read or chirp to him, for about 1h, or more with pauses)
1. Hands outside the cage, but near (this was before 13 august)
2. Finger inside the cage, through the bars
(He has nibbled on it the first day; the second day he was jumping around the cage happily and perched on the finger VERY QUICKLY but about 5 times, as well as in his perches)
3. Hand inside the cage.
(Now, here he has been more quiet. Lots of the time he sings, even if my hand is near him. He's happy if I don't get the hand too near.
But sometimes he's singing, my hand is too close and he changes the perch, then proceeds to sing more)
The last days I tried to make him perch on my finger. He would, but would fly away immediatly.
4. Today was the first day I tried it. I Put the hand inside the cage with millet (in grains). He wasn't interested and tried to get away. So, I took my hand out of the cage and waited a while. Some time later I came back and did the same. He moved away, but after about 20 minutes, he ate from my hand about two or three grains of millet. I waited more 15 minutes and gave up.

I'm sharing this because today I got a little tired - I'm losing my hope and therefore my patience. Should I continue? Will I get results?
If I talk less to him during the day, will he appreciate more the time of the tame session?
Should I do shorter taming sessions so he just appreciates them more?
Should I give up or do you thing we're having huge progress and soon he'll eat more from my hand?


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Old 08-22-2016, 03:47 PM
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I cannot offer advice as I am in the same situation. But I can offer my understanding.
I was giving it my all and my budgies have not progressed further than, not freaking out when I change there cage paper/food and water, and one of them will step up and let me take her out of the cage but then fly's else where.

I'm sure if you continue to try with your bird you will make progress, but as to how far it will go, I'm not sure.

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On this thread https://talkbudgies.com/taming-bondin...or-birdie.html you have mentioned training your friend's budgie.
This in itself can be more troublesome and adds an entirely new barrier since this budgie isn't yours and by having a more limited access you won't be able to keep the training sessions consistent.

When it comes to the time spent on each training session, from my experience I found the shorter sessions of about 20 minutes to be more effective.
Depending on availability, these sessions can be done 2 - 3 times per day.

It's up to you if you want to invest your time in taming your friend's budgie. Doing so when your heart is no longer in it would only be counter productive.
If you are willing to continue with the training, you will have to be in a positive frame of mind, leave the negativity, hopelessness and frustrations aside in order to create an inviting atmosphere where the budgie will be more receptive to interact with you.
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Aluz has offered great advice.

If you are frustrated and upset by the training this won't be good for any training sessions at all.
You're going to have to decide what will work best for you. It is hard work to tame a budgie but so many budgie owners can tell you that it is worth the effort.
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aluz has offered you the best possible advice under the circumstances.
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Thank you! I know being frustrated doesn't help but I came here more for sharing the problems, and as Birdbaby did, see some understanding, that sometimes is the best help. I also loved the tip on doing more sessions of less time.
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Hopefully sharing the problem will help. And the understanding too.
The questions at the end were why I chipped in as it seemed like you were also seeking advice on where to go. Luckily, Aluz offered good advice and I think that might be great for you.

Keep up the good work.
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Sure, I mean I was putting them out and if there's advice to be given i accepted it you were right

EDIT: And also some kind of "diagnose", if we're going in the right path and doing things right

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Often if you try to hard it can become a challenge rather than a loving , fun relationship built on trust and kindness. I think shorter and more spontaneous interaction woks the best. I know with my budgies it did.
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Today was the first day he stepped up to my hand, confidently, while eating!

edit: I have followed the advice on doing shorter sessions and it really helps.
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