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Taming and Bonding Taming and Bonding is all about helping your budgie learn to TRUST you. This requires time and patience and does not happen overnight.

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Old 05-03-2019, 07:42 AM
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Hello, recently my Gwen lost her long time buddy. They were together for over 7 years. They both were not tamed and never wanted to leave their cage.
Since Arthur is gone(about 10days now) we talk a lot and started training a bit. She was always less afraid and even at one point, years ago, would step on my finger but then we moved and ever since she does not want.
She loves to eat millet out of my hand, and they both always liked that. I am trying now to hand train her, to step on my finger and maybe even leave cage. But she always walks away when i put my finger near, and i back off. Should i not or is it okay giving her space? Sometimes she will not move, but kinda bite it a little. And sometimes she is calm and does not move, but that does not last long even though my hand is perfectly still.
I got advice to not put finger in front of her, but put crossbar or something like that. I am not sure if that is good advice? She is not scared of me. She loves when we talk, and moves closer.
She is not type bird to play with her toys, she sings, sleeps or eats....and now that she is alone i want to make sure she is not lonely or unhappy. So any advice is more than welcome. Thank you. I am putting her picture so you can see how beautiful my little princess is
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Old 05-03-2019, 10:21 AM
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If she bites or nips at your finger then she is telling you back off, so that is what you need to do in the moment. You have to take your cues from her and go at her pace. My birds are not tame but they will step up for me but only on a rope perch, never my finger and usually not anything else. What happens if you leave the cage door open, does she show any interest at all in even exploring an open door? If you leave the door open and sit by the cage and talk to her, maybe offering some millet at the door, in time she may decide to come closer. With Arthur gone you may need to spend extra time with her so she does not feel alone.
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She shows no interest in going out. I could leave door open all the time she will not leave. One summer i put those bird bath on door and they never went in. Maybe i will try with perch she is familiar with. Cause she gets very scared of new stuff like new toys or perches.
It's a little confusing how is she scared of fingers cause she eats spray millet of them.
We are spending lots of time talking, and few times a day, for short periods of time i put my hand in cage. I don't want to overwhelm her with it.
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Right now, Gwen is most likely still grieving for Arthur. It’s good that you talk to her, and spend time near her cage. Some budgies prefer to be left alone for a little while after they loose a friend. But the grieving process doesn’t take too long to get over for birds.

She may over time, decide to warm up to you more, or not. Each individual will react differently. It’s clear Gwen already isn’t afraid of you. Just give her time right now, and remember, if she wants to become closer to you, she will do it on her terms. All th best with her.
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Thank you for your advices. I will keep her pace, and that is for now very slowly. I am fine with her not want to bond much, whatever she likes. I just wish i can get her to leave her cage, so she doesnt spend her life in it alone. If you know what i mean.
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Do give little Gwen time to grieve.
It is very good that you are spending lots of time talking with her every day.

To build your budgie’s trust, sit by her cage and read, talk or sing quietly to her for a period of at least 10-15 minutes, 3 or 4 times day.
After the 2nd or 3rd day, rest your hand on the outside of the cage when you talk to her so she'll learn that your hand is safe and will not hurt her.

After a week, rest your hand inside the cage when you talk.
Don’t make sudden moves, don’t try to touch her.
Let her get used to the idea that the hand is now in her safe place and not harming her.

After 2 weeks, begin moving your hand slowly toward your budgie. If she becomes agitated, stop moving your hand and just hold very still until she calms down. When she's comfortable with your hand near her, you can offer her a bit of millet or a few seeds. In a few more days, you can begin your taming and bonding sessions.

Always work at your budgie's pace.
Move slowly and talk reassuringly and calmly to her whenever you interact with her.
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Thank you FaeryBee, we are now at the phase where she will eat millet out of my hand, and also she is calm when i rest my hand without millet inside the cage by the door. She freaks out if i try to move my hand closer to her, so for now i don't. She doesn't move or freak if i have millet in my hand. I am adding two pictures to see how she looks in training.
Also she doesn't flinch like she used to when i get near, or when i walk past her cage. She loves being talk to and even moves closer.
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That’s great to hear that Gwen has adjusted to being single, and is warming up to you!
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How is she doing? It's so strange she doesn't want to leave her cage, mine started flying around since day 1. I was worried they wouldn't want to go back in but they go in on their own.
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How is she doing? It's so strange she doesn't want to leave her cage, mine started flying around since day 1. I was worried they wouldn't want to go back in but they go in on their own.
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Actually, it is not at all strange that Gwen does not want to leave her cage.
Most budgies view their cage as their "safe place" and often have to develop a great deal of trust in their owner before they are ever comfortable venturing out of it.
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