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Hello everyone! I just joined your site in hopes of some advice. I have 3 budgies - Barry, Lily and Daisy.

I just got Barry in March after losing my first budgie last fall. My first budgie - Buddy was my son's bird. None of us knew anything about birds. He eventually lost interest in him after a few months and he became mine. I didn't have a clue what I was doing but he bonded with me and I fell IN LOVE with him. Unfortunately, he died and I was devastated. Long story short I tried to get another one and have had no luck with taming/bonding. I have researched and tried everything (I didn't do any of this for Buddy it all just naturally happened) but he is always scared and not interested in me. Finally in June I decided to get him some company so we adopted Lily and Daisy. They are all out free everyday and I have tried everything to have them more comfortable with me but nothing works I give it a common thing for some budgies to just not want any contact/interaction with their owner? Super disappointed and hoping someone here can help!?! Thanks so much!!


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Hi, Welcome to Talk Budgies!

The purpose of this forum is to promote the BEST PRACTICES in the care of budgies for their optimal Health and Well-Being

Taming and Bonding is all about helping your budgies learn to trust you and it takes a great deal of time and patience on your part.
You should never grab your budgies or force them to be touched.
To bond with your budgies, you need to build their trust in you.
They will have to learn over time that you will not hurt them, grab them and try to force them to allow you to hold them.
To bond with your birds, you need to build their trust in you.
They will have to learn over time that you will not hurt them.

As you have three birds, they have already bonded with one another. You can spend as much time with them as possible, reading, singing and talking to them.
Taming them is going to be a challenge as you have them out of the cage all day. Over time, they may accept you into their flock but they are always going to be more closely bonded to one another and will never be "tame" in the way you seem to be looking for. It's doubtful they are going to want to sit on you and interact with you.

Take a look at the stickies in the Taming and Bonding section of the forum. You may have success with clicker training for your budgies.

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Hi there and welcome to the forums!!

FaeryBee has given great advice and I agree with her completely. 👍🏻 It’s always easier to bond with a single bird but if you’re patient and spend lots of time with them they may accept you as part of their flock, as mentioned, though they won’t be as friendly with you as Buddy seems to have been, given that he was a single bird.

Meanwhile, it’s great to have you on the forums as you couldn’t have come to a better place to learn even more about the best of budgie care practices!

Please be sure to read through the links provided above as they’ll help you to stay updated on everything! If you have any questions after doing so, please be sure to ask as we’d love to help.

Best wishes! 👋
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