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I got a new budgie three days ago, and I can't tell if he likes me.
He's my first bird, and I still don't really know how to read budgie body language :/
He stays in one part of his cage for a long time, only moving his head, but sometimes he'll fly like a maniac from one perch to another over and over. Is that normal? Is he trying to get out of his cage?
He doesn't chirp much, and he doesn't eat very much. He isn't hand tamed but when I try to teach him he just bites me or refuses to step up, even if I put seeds in my hand. When he does chirp it's often loud and piercing - I've looked it up and I think it's a contact call, and I don't know how to make him relax.
I let him out of his cage for the first time yesterday and he just completely rushed around and would NOT calm down. Any advice?

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Hi! :welcome: to Talk Budgies

Budgies are usually submissive when you first bring them home because they are terrified.
It is best that you not try to touch your budgie for the first two weeks.
He needs time to settle into his new environment and become comfortable with his new surroundings.

You can cover the top and three sides of the cage to help the budgie feel more secure. Playing music for him when you aren't around will be helpful as well. Budgies perceive no noise as meaning there may be danger.

Taming and Bonding is all about helping your budgie learn to trust you and it takes a great deal of time and patience on your part.
You should never grab your budgie or force him to be touched.
To bond with your budgie, you need to build his trust in you.
He will have to learn over time that you will not hurt him, grab him and try to force him to allow you to hold him.

To build your budgie's trust, sit by his cage and read, talk or sing quietly to him for a period of at least 10-15 minutes, 3 or 4 times day. After the 2nd or 3rd day, rest your hand on the outside of the cage when you talk to him so he'll learn that your hand is safe and will not hurt him .

After a week, rest your hand inside the cage when you talk.
Don't make sudden moves, don't try to touch him .
Let him get used to the idea that the hand is now in his safe place and not harming him .

After 2 weeks, begin moving your hand slowly toward your budgie. If he becomes agitated, stop moving your hand and just hold very still until he calms down. When he's comfortable with your hand near him , you can offer him a bit of millet or a few seeds. In a few more days, you can begin your taming and bonding sessions.

Always work at your budgie's pace.
Move slowly and talk reassuringly and calmly whenever you interact with him .

Most budgies once they pass the "baby" stage, do not like to be petted or touched.
If your budgie does like to be petted, you should only ever pet his head, neck or chest area.
Stroking a budgie's back and/or tail stimulates its breeding instinct. Bonding means allowing them to choose to be with you.

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Deborah has given you the best detail. Back off any direct contact and give him plenty of time. It may take weeks or longer but if you follow Deborah's advice, you will slowly be rewarded. Keeping a journal may be helpful for you.

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Hello and :welcome:

You have come to the right place to learn more about budgies and best practices for budgie care. FairyBee has given you excellent advice. Bonding and taming take time and patience but can be very rewarding. What is your bird's name? When you get a chance, we also love to see pictures!

Good luck with your new companion and let us know how it goes!

Goldenwing (and Lemon Drop) :lutino linnie:

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Hi there and :welcome: to the forums!

You've been given great advice! It's very important to go very slowly with budgies; that's the best way to build a solid foundation on which to base bonding.

Be sure to read through all of the links provided above by FaeryBee, as they contain the best practices for budgie care! Also be sure to go through the many forum's many articles and stickies that we have here! If you have any questions after reading through everything, be sure to ask as we'd love to help.

Best wishes! :wave:
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